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Nowadays I look back and feel that not having got those places in the inner city was a blessing in disguise as I wouldn't have been happy there and the rents there have got absolutely ridiculous and that really really would have hurt to have got one of those places that was nice and affordable at first, settled in there and then told the rent was going up to an extent that I couldn't afford it and having to move than what did happen when I kicked and screamed to get this place!

Thankfully this place for me is nice and affordable even though the rent is going up next month as it will for all the other council tenants but it will still be nice and affordable for me though.

I remember when I cried when I lost out on a place in Canton that would have been nice and affordable to start with but now I look back and I'm glad I lost out as it really really would have hurt worse to have gone there, got settled in and the rent put up to an extent the place became unaffordable than to have lost out like I did!

Thing is with those places it wasn't just me disappointed as others were as well and more were disappointed than not!

Many years ago I was at the swimming pool and said how I was upset over not having got a job I had fancied and a lady had said how not getting what you want is a blessing and to that I replied how it can be when you have had time to calm down and think things over.

Another friend of mine had said how when things don't happen it's a blessing in disguise and I said how yes it can work out like that as I wouldn't have been happy at those places I lost out on or those jobs I lost out on either!

That pharmacy job looking back was no loss when I look back and I'm glad I left before any damage was done to my health and confidence and all that was over was my face didn't fit and nothing to do with my performance like they had claimed!

Today it's a nice quiet day in drinking lots of cups of tea and listening to music as I will be busy on Friday with my blood test and filling out paperwork for my new job!

Thankfully the blood test is nice and early at 9 45 am so once that's done its done for the day and I don't have to worry about it again!

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I am so glad you are now doing ok and accepting things have turned out for the better.😇

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I find it hurts a lot more when you have things and then they are snatched away than not having them at all and having to wait!I find I appreciate and enjoy things a lot more when I have had to have waited for them!

How are you and the dogs getting on?

Baby sends her best wishes to them!

That pharmacy job was a dead loss and every week I was there there would always be someone upset and crying!

One day myself and colleagues there were walking past the staff room and a girl was crying and I was like not someone else upset and reckoned it was beyond a joke!

I went to see if she was OK and did she want a chat as things always seem easier once they are shared and have someone listen and understand.

Then they did a sham of a staff meeting and I had brought up how I was extremely concerned about how there was always someone upset and crying in the staff room nearly once a week and I was concerned that there was a bully around and all management did was laugh and said that more than likely those staff were crying over things that had gone on at home!

At the Llandough hospital it was nice and homely and in the weeks I was there there was a member of staff that was crying after she had received an eviction notice from her apartment in Cardiff Bay the same time I received mine in the July of 2022 and I had said that more than likely there were mistakes on the notice and to string them along for a bit like I did when I noticed there were mistakes on the first notice I received I strung them along and didn't say anything until they applied to court and court had sent the forms back saying they were invalid so they had wasted 4 months and had to send me a new one!

In total it took them nearly a year to get me out of the old place due to the messed up paperwork and having to go to court for a hearing after they had messed up the court forms and yet again I had strung them along not saying anything until court saw the forms and booked a hearing which I preferred at at court there are people there to support you.

Those notices are extremely hard to get right aren't they?

Turns out they had made a mistake on the colleagues notice as well and had to start the process again sending her a new one!

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The lady who started the same time I did who I am friends with had said how there had been no call for the way I was treated at the pharmacy all because my face didn't fit there and how I would have flourished in there if it hadn't been for their bad attitudes!

She had handed in her months notice in the October of 2022 just after i had left as she had had enough of the place as well as she couldn't stand their attitudes there either!

Lots of other staff have left there as well that were there when I was and they have started a load of new people yet again!

My advice to them is don't lie and play with people's lives!

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All that was over was because I wouldn't give them their own way over working a Sunday as I had already made arrangements.

They had said to me how other members of staff were fed up with me asking for help and I had never heard anything so stupid and no no one had said that as I asked one of the technicians was that true and she said no it wasn't and management had made it up!

They had sent me to work somewhere else to punish me over me not giving them their own way which had backfired on them as I had enjoyed working there!

When that job finished I was extremely upset over how I had been treated and having the door slammed in my face when it didn't work out!

I would rather have cried because I had taken the opportunity and it not work out than cry after not taking it wondering what might have been.

I had dared to say I was upset over the job not having worked out and got told to be grateful for the good things in my life just to shut me up and I had been furious!

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Part of me was glad to have left same as part of me was happy when I got evicted as well as I had felt it was a case of good riddance there as well!

With these aggressive people you would think the world had ended in how they react when they are told no to something and that was ridiculous all because I told them no to working that Sunday shift and they didn't get their way!

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