Thank you so much for your kind words and support with this 🙂 it means more than you know. Also, I think this is the first time, I've dealt with someone this close passing away. At 27 years and sadly not everyone can say the same.
Regardless it shapes you and your life is a way that perhaps forces change, and this isn't always a bad thing.
Your reply as always is welcome and i hope you are doing well x
My heartfelt condolences on your loss. It is extremely life-altering and discombobulating. I lost my mom to lymphoma in 2021 and it is very hard. I am still learning how to live in this "new reality". Grief is a very individual process that has no timeline. Run from anyone who tells you otherwise. Allow yourself to feel everything you feel; all feelings are valid. There is a grief community here on HU if interested.
Thank you and i send my condolences to you also 🙂 I can relate with trying to live in this 'new reality'. I'm finding at this moment in time that people around me are learning to move forward in this reality but i'm find this difficult.
As in i probably speak about them more than everyone else and i don't know if this is me trying to hold on.
Thank you for your words and also for letting me know about the grief community, i will check this out!
I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your parent, I lost mine many years ago, and still miss them both every single day, I think as you say if you lose much loved parents life is never the same again.
Those that live in the hearts of others never die ❤️
Someone told me (i think they were trying to be helpful at the time) that when you're ready to see and listen to them, they will be signs and messages and only when we're ready, we will feel them again, but in a different way and from a different realm, but they very much live on through us. I don't know if the 'signs and messages'part is to be true but living on through us seems more true.
Thank you Starlight 🙂 I agree with what you've written here but it was pointed out to me that i do have a tendency to sit and stay stuck in emotions and although they're trying to be helpful, it made me think, am i staying stuck on purpose or judt letting myself sit with it?
It's normal to have these mixed feelings when somebody close dies. And it's somehow worse with a parent.
Grief takes time, you need to process it all over a period of maybe months. I felt bad because I wasn't there, I was 3,000 miles away in a different country.
Continuing seems hard, but you must do it. Tears are healing, don't suppress them.
Talk with your other relatives, swap stories, have a laugh about the silly things you may have done. This will show you that others are grieving too.
Don't take any notice of anyone who says 'Get Over it', That is what you are trying to do, and it shows you that the person who says it has no empathy.
I was lucky to have my two children, still very young to explain and encourage and dry their tears; it took the heat off my own feelings, because you have to be strong for your kids.
I'm sorry for your loss,They passed at the end of April, so really, it hasn't been the longest time yet, but i thank you for your words and understanding. It has been helpful.
I don't have any children of my own, but my Sister does, and i can see what you mean when it took the heat of your own feelings and having to be strong for them. I think in some way, this helped my Sister to deal with her own grief. I'm glad this was helpful to you also!
Content on HealthUnlocked does not replace the relationship between you and doctors or other healthcare professionals nor the advice you receive from them.
Never delay seeking advice or dialling emergency services because of something that you have read on HealthUnlocked.
xx
I live a very lonely life. 
Life is a mystery.
A life not lived
