Unsupportive spouse

[Moom00k1tty]

I’m not really sure what happened, but I ended up sending my husband 3-4 texts while he was grocery shopping. For some reason I was feeling scared and vulnerable while at the same time being belligerent. When he got home he called texts harassment and told me to stop acting so “goddamn” crazy.

This isn’t the first time he’s treated me this way. Is this emotional abuse?

[litethatnevergoesout]

I don’t know who this is about, but it sounds like a trend that he doesn’t like the way you talk to him. I’m just going off of what you said. No one wants to be harassed or at the receiving end of belligerency, no one likes to be called crazy either. marriage counseling is a must if you two are going to resolve this pattern. he sounds provoked you want to be understood. it’s so important how we communicate to one another. I’m not a marriage counselor but I know that much at least. good luck.

[Dolphin14]

I have to say I agree with litethatnevergoesout

You both need to have a discussion about it

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[LilyAnnepuppy]

You list that you suffer from clinical depression and anxiety. You also said your texts were belligerent. Doesn’t that equate to harassment? Just because you were feeling bad, that doesn’t give you license to abuse someone else.

[corgi_fan817]

I have been in a similar situation. It felt like I never had time to myself and I was made to feel guilty when I was not responsive. From his perspective he can see this as abuse. That’s how I felt. I never felt like I was like a my own person unto myself. What you describe can be something like that. I think you need to think about how much space he is getting. It can destroy a marriage. The second part of this is what you said, if it paints a picture that he is the bad guy for not responding then that is problematic.

[CLB1125]

From what I’ve interpreted from your post, if he knows what your conditions are he was being abusive. Nobody with a mental illness wants to be called crazy. a simple “I’ll be home shortly “ may have deescalated your anxiety.

[Coffeelover89]

I don't think the way he communicated to you was very effective. You had a reaction to something that made you uncomfortable. Marriage needs to have open communication. As far as what was bothering you, and why did it make him react that way? I would get to the source of the issue so you can better understand each other's emotions, and come to some sort of allignment on how to talk to each other better so you both are not feeling this way.