Death of a Dad

[Beedo]

hello all, I am 18 and my dad passed away around 9 hours ago. I am still in shock, it doesn’t feel any different. Now some context, my mother and dad have been divorced for around 6 years now and I have had some distance between my brother and me with him, especially since he lived an hour away. But, I did live with him until I was around 12 so I have a lot of fond memories with him. He has always had mental issues and demons since he was a little kid when his mom passed away and when we left it was bad for him. He had asthma and heart problems, along with these mental issues, which had eventually led to a heart attack today. I am not sure what to do. It hurts so much that my dada is gone and it hurts even worse because my mother has a new boyfriend which she mentioned getting engaged to today. If anyone has any comforts or anything, please leave a note or something. I am sick of hearing sorry because there is nothing anyone can do. Thank you for reading.

[davidthecoder]

Hey Beedo,

Just wanted to take a moment to show support for you here. Obviously this is going to be difficult for anyone. I am sure that some in this group have been through this with losing a parent. They might have some great insight to share with you that helped them get through the worst of it.

I haven't lost a parent but I did lose my grandfather to pancreatic cancer and it was an awful experience. I still think of him even though its been a few years now. It can feel like a part of us has died as well. And it reminds us of our own morality...

I suppose this is something that we all must face someday. And it is perfectly natural to be a painful experience. But over time the pain will subside. How long that may take, varies from person to person.

I do hope that others will also respond to your post here, and welcome to this group.

[secrets22]

I feel your heartbreak in your post and its a very difficult time for you, grief does strange things to us and only given time the loss reduces, thinking of you.

[LadyZen]

That's a tremendous amount to go through. You may want to see if you can process some of this with a school counselor if it gets really bad. My son has some similar feelings about his father, and he's talked to me a lot. Not sure if it's something your mom will know how to process with you or not. Know that everything you feel is normal.

[Arymretep]

Sending my deepest sympathy , your Dad will always be with you in spirit

Those that live in the hearts of others never die💕

[Agora1]

Hi Beedo, losing a parent at any age is devastating and can leave a hole in your heart.

Losing your dad at 18 is even sadder because you were robbed of the years ahead of

you with him. Divorced or not, that was your dad and will always be your dad. No one

can ever replace the memories you have of him. Hang on to those memories in getting

you through your grieving. May your father RIP. xx

[Dolphin14]

Beedo

We can't ease the pain but we can help support you

🐬

[Midori]

Welcome to the Community.

We are a friendly bunch here, all of us have had mental problems in our lives, some of us have managed to get further along in recovery and we stay here to help others in similar circumstances.

Pull up a treestump and sit by the Campfire with us!

Cheers, Midori