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My mom is dying of stage 4 lung cancer that has spread. It's hard to watch her on this journey. I can't seem to get my shit together. Just so sad & extremely anxious. Just wanna feel some relief

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Shnookie

I’m so sorry that you are going thru this please don’t beat yourself up. It’s very understandable why U R so sad and anxious. I was my mother’s sole caregiver when she had stage 4 Pancreatic cancer. It was so hard for me. Please try to find a cancer support center near where you live or try sources likes the American Cancer Society. They have support groups that can be very helpful for you. I’m here 4 U.

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Hippiedeb5150 in reply to Shnookie

Thankyou for your kindness Shnookie

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Shnookie in reply to Hippiedeb5150

You are very welcome. 🙏

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fauxartist

I'm very sorry your going through this, it's exhausting on you too, I understand that...and it's okay to do something to just give yourself a break, and re-charge your batteries guilt free. Even if it's just watching a movie and eating some Ben and Jerry's. Best Wishes to you.

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Hippiedeb5150 in reply to fauxartist

Thankyou for your kindness fauxartist

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LoveforAll41

I agree with the other posts Hippiedeb. There are times in our lives where the bare minimum is okay and we don't need to have our crap together. Take your time to grieve and have compassion for yourself. I don't think there is any getting around this being a very very hard thing. I wish you peace, hope, and strength. ☮️

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Hippiedeb5150 in reply to LoveforAll41

Thankyou for your kindness LoveforAll41

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LadyZen

Gosh, I'm so sorry. I hope you can find some comfort and peace.

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Thankfulforhelp22

Sorry to hear about your Mom. Grief does suck but it doesn't last forever. Be there for her as much as you can right now.

A day will come when the good memories of her will dominate your thoughts.

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Hippiedeb5150 in reply to Thankfulforhelp22

Thankyou for your kindness

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kenster1

I`m sorry to hear that thoughts are with you all.

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Hippiedeb5150 in reply to kenster1

Thankyou for your kindness

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Agora1

Dearest Hippiedeb5150, seeing a loved one go through this struggle can make you

feel so all alone and helpless. As "Shnookie" suggested, please turn to the American

Cancer Society. They can help in many ways to support both you and your mom.

Thinking of you and your mother during this most difficult journey. xx

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Hippiedeb5150 in reply to Agora1

Thankyou so much for your kindness Agora1

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Agora1 in reply to Hippiedeb5150

:) xx

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bonkers65

I'm so sorry you are going through this. (((((HUGS)))))

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Midori

My Mum died suddenly a few days after I went abroad, I had to come home for the funeral, and then go back again. It was a short visit and no time to grieve for me. You have the chance to be with your mum and hold her hand as she passes.

This is a great comfort for both the dying person and the relative with them, as I have found out subsequently, the fact that you can be there and talk to them, and often they can still hear, as hearing is the last thing to leave. if you can, have a radio on, or a CD quietly playing her favourite songs, talk to her about the things you can see outside the window, the weather, the birds, etc.

You will know you have done your best for her.

Cheers, Midori

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Hippiedeb5150 in reply to Midori

Thankyou for your kindness

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Midori

You are most welcome.

Cheers, Midori

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