relationships

[pop72]

I get so sad when my bf has to leave. Sometimes it makes me physically sick. I’m not sure how to cope with this and I don’t want to be so attached to him. I feel really clingy and I try to pull back but I don’t know how.

[Dolphin14]

Welcome to the group.

Is your boyfriend going far?

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[pop72 in reply to Dolphin14]

No he lives about 30 mins away. And I see him every weekend.

[Dolphin14 in reply to pop72]

It must be hard having the weekends and then saying goodbye.

Are you in school or working? I think you just have to keep busy and hopefully the week goes by fast

[pop72 in reply to Dolphin14]

Yes I work nights and he works days. We barely talk during the week. Which makes it so much harder.

[LoveforAll41]

Hey pop72, that is a hard situation to be in if you only see your significant other or person you are dating on the weekends. I am not sure how I would handle it. Now that I have kids it is a bit of a break when I am out of town for a week for work 😜. It is nice to be appreciated and feel that someone wants to be around you, so I am sure you boyfriend is happy about that.

As for coping, I am all for accepting feelings, and it is hard to be away from someone so I don't think you necessarily need to avoid feeling sad about it. I would recommend finding a hobby or something that you can dive into, one that you get into enough that you don't think about him for a while. Having another social group is really important too. I would recommend making an effort to get out with other groups of people. Perhaps this will be a lifetime relationship for you, but that doesn't mean it should be the only one that you are cultivating. I wish you peace, hope, and self-autonomy.

[pop72 in reply to LoveforAll41]

Thank you so much. I think you are so right because it’s hard for me because I don’t have much friends. And he has a lot so it’s hard for me to take my mind off him when he is really the only thing I am happy about. I need to find things on my own that make me happy and find interests that keep me busy. Thank you so much for your reply.