Family relationships

[Pizzaforever]

How can I have a relationship with my sister, whom is bipolar, and constantly threatens me,when she is not doing well mentally.

[Hurtingheart2]

hi sorry you’re dealing with this! How does she threaten if you don’t mind me asking? I deal with strange very unhealthy behavior from family as well it’s very painful and I’m not sure how to hav a relationship with them either! 😞

[Pizzaforever in reply to Hurtingheart2]

I'm sorry to hear you are having family issues as well 😔 my sister has threatened me with having my son shot and threatened cps on me.

[Pizzaforever in reply to Pizzaforever]

What has been some things you're family has done, if you mind me asking hurtingheart2

[Hurtingheart2 in reply to Pizzaforever]

Oh wow that’s horrible 😱🫶💕sorry to read it!!

[Pizzaforever in reply to Hurtingheart2]

Yeah, it's hard to see her struggle, at the same time,when she's not doing well, I don't feel safe. I have her blocked on my phone, sense she's threatened me, but it puts a big wedge in my family as well.

[RS1974]

Sorry you're struggling with your sister. I would proceed with caution when trying to get close with your sister especially if she's abusive towards you. Take care of yourself first.

[Pizzaforever in reply to RS1974]

Thank you

[RS1974 in reply to Pizzaforever]

You're welcome sweetie

[Mrspjsmom]

Sometimes we have to put ourselves first and stay safe. Sounds like perhaps this is one of those times.

[casablancalover14]

I hope your sister is taking meds for the bi polar. You are doing the right thing by keeping your distance from her. Please take care and put yourself as number one. With time, maybe your sister will treat you like you deserve to be treated. Hang in there!😍😍

[linuxusr]

Hello Pizzaforever: If I give you good advice, will you give me a slice? You are wringing your hands, saying how can you have a relationship with your sister if she threatens you. You need to consider the option that maybe, under the circumstances, you CANNOT have a relationship with your sister. Regarding social interactions in general, when we feel uncomfortable or disturbed (or threatened) there are two basic options: 1. Remove yourself from the situation, 2. Set boundaries or limits. When your sister is not having an episode and you to sit down with her and have very serious discussion about what you will and will not tolerate. With respect to threats, you must explain to her what will be the consequences if she threatens you again. And before you meet with her you need to think carefully through the options. On the extreme end, you could terminate the relationship. But that could have serious ramifications. Better to think of a lesser constraint and try that first. For example, tell her that if she threatens you again, she may no longer visit you at home. What are you going to do, walk out of your own house? Tell her that you will only see her at her house in a public place for coffee. This is just an example. The solution is staring you in the face. You need to grab it and act on it.