Relationships

[Tjwills]

Okay so here’s the question... do relationships make anxiety and depression worse? 🤷🏽‍♀️

I’m going through a really really tough time and spoke to my friend today about it. She feels that the root of most of my issues is my relationship🤦🏽‍♀️ so I thought I’d ask for advice.

My partner has depression and anxiety too and I feel I have to be the strong one all the time because even when I have huge problems it’s always turned into how he feels and I end up carrying him through my issues. So after a while I closed down to talking too much to him About stuff. We don’t really talk about problems and sometimes we sit in awkward silence. We don’t pay each other compliments or tell each other how we feel other than each morning before work he says he loves me as he’s leaving. We don’t touch and I don’t just mean sex I mean there’s no connection like not even a hug-in fact I think we have hugged twice this year and had sex once (because I brought up the lack of intimacy)

Oh we’ve also only been out on a “date” alone 3 times in 3 years

So the question is... would a relationship like this be an issue for any of you lovely folks

[fauxartist]

any good relationship should be mutual support. Even if the both of you have stuff your dealing with, supporting each other is important. Unfortunately misery loves company, and some people want to keep you down where they are, and you then have to make the choice for yourself that you want to feel better, and if they don't, that's on them, just take the steps you need for yourself.

[AnxietySterling]

Hi, it is really up to you. For some people that may be ideal. You need to think about what you want for yourself. I think that when both partners have anxiety or depression it could work as long as both are working towards the same goal.

For me I like to be able to communicate my feelings without being judged. My husband does not have anxiety but I think he tries to understand and be patient. Not sure how it would work if he had it.

Best luck to you but follow your heart.

[GM1954]

With the right relationship, which is supportive it should enhance that special bond.

[gerrerd]

The only thing i can say treating people the way you want to be treated, Sometimes works in life. I,m no expert on these things. But the more you put into something the more you get out of it. If this does not work. If it was me i would have a hard decision to make. Hope this helps. Gerrard.

[pink83737]

Sounds like you may need a break.

[nimon]

It would for me. Relationship to me means support. I’m the one with issues and my spouse doesn’t understand and I’m happy she doesn’t have to. Her understanding means she has my issues. I force myself to give compliments when I’m down because when I’m up it’s easy. We have to work harder in relationships because we lose our emotions at times. I’ve wondered whether relationships would be easier or harder when both have anxiety and are depressed. I’ve never had a relationship like that. Lack of communication is to me one of the strong indicators of future problems.

[Queri]

It made it worse for me after a really horrible break up I felt love sick