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I just got a call from my husband's sister who is an RN.

I can't type I'm so scared.

She was talking to my husband on the phone just a little while ago and he was complaining of a lot of pain in the leg the surgery was performed on. Not near the incision.

Nurse came in the room and talked to him and to her on the phone.

Conclusion: possible blood clot.

The nurse said she'd speak to the doctor -- he's not there now.

Apparently the plan is / was to do some test. (I don't remember what.) HIs sister said she told them she doesn't want them waiting till morning for it. She asked about him being taken to the Emergency room tonight.

She also is trying to find out if he has been on blood thinners. We both brought that up in the beginning, because his blood cancer makes his blood too thick. The Cancer hospital said they'd leave it up to the doctor's at Rehab.

I'm so scared, just waiting to hear what's going on.

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Hb2003 profile image
Hb2003

i am so sorry 🫂 i will be there for you 🙏❤️

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Nothing_but_books in reply toHb2003

Hi Hiba. Thank you. I'll keep everyone updated. I'm not going to sleep soon.

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Hb2003 in reply toNothing_but_books

your welcome i understand that your very anxious just know your not alone 🙏❤️

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Shnookie

so sorry to hear your husband is going thru this. Sending U a hug and good karma will say a healing ❤️‍🩹 prayer for body and soul

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Nothing_but_books in reply toShnookie

Hi Shnookie, Thank you for your prayers.

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Shnookie in reply toNothing_but_books

you are very welcome. I’m here 4 U

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Nothing_but_books in reply toShnookie

So are the chocolate chips. I'm eating to calm myself. I wonder how many you can eat before you make yourself sick? 😬

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Shnookie in reply toNothing_but_books

I would say eat them in moderation and coat your stomach as well.

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Nothing_but_books in reply toShnookie

It's a tad late for moderation.

I think you're right. I'm gonna get a glass of milk.

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Dolphin14

NBB

If there is a suspected blood clot this is emergent. He should have been on blood thinners and I'm sure he was.

Have you heard anything? There is always a Dr on call. Everyday all day.

❤️🐬

PS a this is not medical advice. This is support telling you to pick up the phone again and get some answers

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Nothing_but_books in reply toDolphin14

He wasn't on blood thinners -- even though I asked the first day if they were needed -- until tonight, when his sister raised Cain. He's on them now.

She is far more knowledgeable about what's going on than I am. She's calling me regularly tonight to keep me updated.

If it wasn't for her calling the Nursing Supervisor a few days ago, their awful care would never have changed; I wasn't getting anywhere. I called her with my list of the problems, she talked to them, and now the staff treats him well! Just an overnight miracle.

I was planning on going there, but I think it's better this way. We had a long talk and she said they're keeping a close eye on him and keeping in touch with her. She's explaining things to me.

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Nothing_but_books in reply toDolphin14

P.S. I don't understand "emergent" in this context.

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Dolphin14 in reply toNothing_but_books

No one sits on a potential blood clot. Ask his sister to question that. Maybe they did blood work to check things?

I hope things work out well. Advocating by asking questions is the best way to go. By law you are still his wife which makes you the next of kin unless he's asked them to not allow you any info.

Again nothing I say takes the place of his medical team.

❤️❤️

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Nothing_but_books in reply toDolphin14

I'm pretty sure he told them he wants me kept informed.

I understand. Thank you! I appreciate the support.

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Dolphin14 in reply toNothing_but_books

Always here for you.

That's good you are in the loop. Call them 100 times. It's best for your anxiety to ask questions. You don't have to " know" medicine. A good health care team should help you understand things.

I'm always here to support you.

Thinking of you both

❤️❤️

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Nothing_but_books in reply toDolphin14

I'm going off line now. I appreciate the suggestions.

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Nothing_but_books in reply toDolphin14

I just put up a new post to clear up what happened. He's driving me crazy.

I just left a note at his bedside to remind him to have me given access to information. Thanks for reminding me.

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Focusedmind

My prayers are with you during this awful night! And I am thrilled his sister is helping you. (I say get through the night in whatever way you need to...in this case, chocolate chip cookies are not a bad choice. 🤣 If it were me, it would be whiskey!) 🙏❤️ 💓

in reply toFocusedmind

HU are now doing breathalising tests before they let us on so no she can't have whiskey nor can you my dear dyper lady 😰😁💛🐼

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😂🤣

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We may be able to sneak some in once we're through the HU door all clear on breathaliser test if take your whisky and my wine in none alcohol bottles 😇😁it's mine and dolphins house warming party next Saturday I think if NBB still doing us one 😁

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Nothing_but_books in reply toFocusedmind

I've got John Lennon's "Whatever Gets You Through the Night" on my mind now.

Hi love🤗 try not to think the worst he's in good hands these things are usually easily sorted, keep us updated sending love and strength to you and your family 💛🌟xxx

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Nothing_but_books in reply to

I just put up a new post explaining what happened. That guy's driving me crazy.

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Sillysausage234

I’m sure he’ll be getting anti blood clot injections for awhile while he’s immobile I think that’s standard nowadays post - op …I had them for about month afterwards….subcutaneous ones.

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Nothing_but_books in reply toSillysausage234

Thanks for letting me know. I'll ask if they're doing that.

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Starrlight

I hope things are getting worked out now. Thinking of you and just said a prayer for you both. ❤️

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Nothing_but_books in reply toStarrlight

The prayers took. He's fine, just an idiot. I left a new post explaining.

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Saraivhdheed

I wish him a speedy recovery

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Nothing_but_books in reply toSaraivhdheed

Thank you.

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Midori

Hope all is well. If he's keeping up the excercises he was taught, he should be fine. This Is why I think they chuck you out without enough supervision. At one time they kept you in and kept the muscles working to prevent clots.

Cheers, Midori

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Nothing_but_books in reply toMidori

I'm not aware they taught him any exercises. I haven't seen him do any, just the stretches I get him to do to help prevent blood clots.

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