family disowned me

[lostgirl75]

two years ago my father and step mother decided to call off family Christmas Eve which we have done my whole life. My father and step mother spent Christmas Eve with my step sister and her new boyfriend. My step sister said I could go when they left so I did and everything that is at my dads was at her house. Then my stepmom and step sister told me I needed to create my own family traditions with my own family. After coming home and realizing what I was told and that her whole family had gifts from my dad and stepmom but my family received no gifts even though we purchase gifts for them. I confronted my dad by text asking why I was treated differently and he never answered my questions. When I asked again I was told to look through the front window. Then they stopped inviting everyone in our family except one of our boys. We have 4 boys and they never bothered with any of them anyway we are no longer invited to any family gatherings except one of our boys.

[Marysblue]

It's their loss.

[CL3V3R-G1RL]

That's terrible. I know what that is like sadly. My mom and dad split up when I was a kid. And every girlfriend my dad got had always hated the fact that he had a pass. Never understood that with these kinds of women that are so insecure that the man that they are with wasn't a virgin and has a child with someone else.

When I became an adult my dad settled down with such a woman. I wasn't allowed at "her house". But I would see my dad every other weekend. Then every night when he used to work nights. We would hit the gym together. She passed away a few years ago. And he found another one. Now this one has been "taking care" of my dad who has been suffering from debilitating migraines with no end in sight. I haven't seen my dad in months. I call him every other day. But it's hard when you can't make them understand how much it hurts.

Again I'm sorry for you and your 3 other boys for being treated so distastefully. That is a cruel thing to do because the other 3 boys are innocents in this situation. And your dad does owe you an explanation. But I'm afraid you'll never get one and for that I'm sorry 😔

[catsrock]

Ugh, family can be so hard! These people are toxic. I hope you can find your own new traditions to peacefully celebrate with your family.

[Midori]

How downright cruel that is, also will breed resentment between the boys.

I truly don't understand families like that.

Cheers, Midori

[lostgirl75 in reply to Midori]

my son that does get invited girlfriend said today we have to play nice if we want Shipley money. I shook my head because my whole life my real dad spent no time with us and certainly never paid for anything for us. I hardly know the man and my kids don’t know him because he was too busy with my step sisters kids to bother with biological grandkids.

[Midori]

Wow! There's a cynical comment from your son's GF!How awful.

Cheers, Midori