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[Lookingforhope20100]

I've been with my Fiancé for a year now and at first everything was great. Now a year later I'm just simplely not happy anymore. I love him with all of my heart but I'm not in love with him anymore. I could marry him out of obligation because I promised him I would when he gave me gave me the ring. But if I'm not happy then what's the point. But I have fears to and don't want to hurt him or destroy the person he became with me he smiles more he's more lively what if that all goes away when I tell him I'm not happy. He is a great guy a guy I wanted to raise my child with but lately it seems like he wants little to do with me my family hates him so they are pushing us to break up I want to leave but I'm scared of being alone, scared of the heartbreak, I'm even scared to put myself back on the market after a reasonable time and I'm terrified to introduce my kid to a new man. What if it makes my life worse and I loose him forever?

[Artistfriend]

I would give it more time unless you're definitely certain. I wouldn't marry out of obligation, that is probably the worst thing you can do imo, that isn't being honest with him or fair to yourself

[012703060610]

Having tried to stay in a marriage with three kids, I can say it was the worst decision I made. I should have divorced years earlier, but then I wouldn't have had my third beautiful baby. I wasn't in love with him anymore. We had different interests and my family, too, did not like him. I like Artistfriend's advice on a little more time. You want to be sure. However, people's actions always are more meaningful with than words. It sounds a bit like he is stepping back himself with you and your family. Something to keep your eye on. And you have no obligation. Engagements broken are better than divorces. You need to know that you deserve to love and be loved back at the same magnitude. I am 44 and remarried to the most caring man I know. He has taken me in with my three kids. If you fret about not meeting someone, you're just creating anxiety that doest' need to be there. I am a math nerd. In 2013, it was stated that the people may start living up to 150 years old (not a lot, but living to 100 for sure). You will see people marrying much later and kids later as well. Time is on your side!

[Artistfriend in reply to 012703060610]

Great advice!