I need some advice

[Lizzy888]

I am struggling with finding my self in this life . Due to some hurtful experiences in my life ,I have developed certain fears thats interferring with my everyday life . The fear of going outside ,the fear of lack in myself and in my living situations .The fear ofl handling people .I wish to have a job but i always strive for inner happiness and stability and i cant seem to find it . I have big dreams but i feel so alone and scared of success. I am on my self healing journey and i see everyone making plans to go places and have fun but i keep wondering when it will be my turn yet i am scared of being happy .I dont know why .

I am always outgoing and being there for people but getting closer to people scares me .Despite my fears i still treat everyone nicely but I want to have real connections in life but the thought of it scares me.

I am very pretty but my biggest insecurity is my teeth, my front teeth is decaying and looks discoloured and my parents dont have cash to fix it as yet . And i want to show myseñf out there but the fear of people judging me and distancing themselves from me is too much to handle .I wish to go on dates but i cant help but think they will see my teeth and reject me .I want to get over my fear of rejection and live my life .

I would appreciate some advice and support on my situation❤️I feel like i cant talk to noone about this 😓thats why i resorted to speak here .

[Perriex]

Hi dear Lizzy.♡

I'm so sorry you are this down.

You spoke frequently about fear. I can relate strongly to that. Fear can take over and begin to run our lives for us. I feel this is basically unchecked anxiety.

If you can, find some healthy habits to begin to quell the anxiety/fears a bit.

Personally, I try and exercise (just videos on YouTube) and walk outside daily. People talk a lot about meditation, but it can be just finding something that keeps you calm in the moment and focusing on that so your mind can rest.

Diet, water, and sleep are all important and difficult to keep in check, but they all affect how we handle our emotions.

When we have insecurities about aspects of our appearance it can really hold us back from interacting with others. I am in this spot myself. We have to accept ourselves physically and mentally where we are right now. I'm glad to hear you feel you are pretty -- that's good! It's possible in the future you will find a way to fix your teeth. For now, it's important that you keep trying to accept yourself as you are.

You sound like you like people and treat them well, so chances are most like you too... maybe more than you realize.

Our perceptions of how we appear to others are often clouded by our assumptions. We can't believe everything we think. It's our fear talking much of the time when we are feeling poorly mentally.

I can relate to seeing others doing well and wondering when it will be my turn.

You have time to figure things out. Just don't give up. In time you will feel differently about how you see yourself and the world. You mentioned being on a healing journey -- me too!

Our journeys are all different, and we must dig deep to find the strength to keep going.

I have faith in you. I believe you will feel better in time.

💫💜💫

~P

[Lizzy888 in reply to Perriex]

Thank you so much ❤️☺️,your words brought comfort to me .I wish you success in your healing journey as well ,its tough but we have this ❤️.Thank you so much for taking the time to write this for me .Its much appreciated❤️

[Perriex in reply to Lizzy888]

You are so welcome sweetheart.💓

[designguy]

Hello Lizzy, it could be that you are suffering from social anxiety and could benefit from finding a therapist that specifically treats it to help you. They typically incorporate group and exposure therapy into the process. There are also programs available online and you can find a lot of good info on youtube about it. I really like the youtubes of Sebastiaan at social anxiety solutions. You may also be suffering from low-self-worth which is common with those who have social anxiety. Basically, you have learned and believe things about yourself that aren't true and those beliefs have distorted how you perceive others and how they perceive you. So you need to learn new healthier ways of perceiving.

[Lizzy888 in reply to designguy]

Thank you so much❤️🙌i truly appreciate the feedback

[designguy in reply to Lizzy888]

You're welcome, hope it helps you.