Help please I need to stop wanting to stay in bed all day,

[Milliewaterlilly]

I've been suffering from anxiety and depression the last weeks, my current reality feels very overwhelming and I have extreme anxiety, insecurities and doubt about the future, too. I want to stay in bed all day, I guess that because it feels very safe there and I don't feel strong emotions while I'm just resting. The problem is that at times I feel comfortable while I'm in bed, I secretly like it when it should bother me since I'll only get worst if i keep doing that. I'm ashamed to tell my therapist and psychiatrist about that. Again, it's not that I can't get out of bed but more like this habit helps me avoid life, disconnect from it, and not feeling pain, so I do it. I feel little interest in anything right now. How would you tell a therapist and psychiatrist that are actually very caring about me? Specially when it comes to my psychiatrist, I feel like I am letting him down since I didn't have any relapse in almost two years.

Also, I live with my brother and im making him worried :((

What can I do to get out of this situation?

I thought about petting an animal, going to the gym, or volunteering so that I can start breaking this harmful circle.

Thanks in advance for your support, I'm happy to be part of this group.

[Toddzen]

I know this feeling of wanting to stay in bed. If you can ignore your mind and just get up and do a small activity that can work. It's a type of no mind action.

[ElephantsHear]

habits are hard to break, but I’m glad to hear you have a supportive counselor, psychiatrist and brother. Tell your brother- maybe he can make you go for a walk with him? Tell your counselor- she’s there to encourage you. Your doc is there to problem solve/ help you. You won’t be a bother to him because that’s his/ her job. Good luck. Hope it doesn’t sound like tough love- I know how hard it can be to break out of “protective” mode.

[Hidden]

Awww that’s a terrible frame of mind to be experiencing just now. You really need to speak to your consultant about it. There’s no shame involved and you’ll find that this can be quite commonplace with depression. Speak to your consultant before you make any life changing decisions. Excercise can definitely help lift mood but it would have to be something that’s achievable and maintainable. Don’t put yourself under pressure then maybe not manage to achieve it then spiral. Simple things like walking can be beneficial and you can do it with little preparation or scheduling. I hope you get the help you need to lift your mood and motivation. We’re all here for you if you need us for some support. Sending you big hugs and love 🙏🏻🍀❤️😘xx

[catsrock]

I totally get that feeling. I think all of your ideas are great. For me, breaking things down into very small steps helps like: swing legs over to side of bed, put feet on floor, stand up, walk to bathroom. I know it sounds silly, but sometimes we need to take teeny tiny steps to move forward.

[catsrock]

One more thing - you could volunteer with animals. Shelters and other places always need volunteers. That's what I do at a cat shelter.

[Pitalife]

My heart n love go out to you, I just went through 3 months or so of,just horrible fatigue n depression,I caregiver for my elderly mom,I went through severe caregiver burnout,Dr put me on Lexapro and Cymbalta its helped,I never wanted to take psych meds but I'm severe bipolar so it comes n goes,I had few months of staying in dark room. And laying down,I suffer w chronic pain to boot..I can really relate to your post..stay in touch.It Can get Better...I hope u find relief n comfort..it's horrible to feel like that..

[Midori]

I recommend getting a pet that you would need to get out of bed to attend to; walking a dog (or cat), guinea pigs are fun and interact with you.

You need to get up and about for your own health. I know from experience what laying in bed can do to you, as I was on bedrest with my first child for 3 months! I had absolutely no muscle tone left when they got me out of bed! 3 weeks fighting with a wheelchair, until I managed to stagger around again on my own pins. then several months more Physio to get back to something like fitness!

I was seriously deficient in Vitamin D, (vital for bone strength), but with weightbearing exercise and supplements I made a pretty good recovery; not perfect, but acceptable.

Muscle tone can be fixed with stretching and weights, (don't need heavy ones, just wrist and ankle weights will give you enough) but the shortening of the muscle fibres will need slow but steady work.

Cheers, Midori

[BrahmNm]

My ❤️ to you.I understand what you are going through.I experiment week before and concluded that any option make us go to bed or depress.If we have compulsion to do something it's push us.Actually I took depression med for last 25 years.but 2 year back diagnosed obstructive sleep apnea.both things compete each other. Also midori suggestion of pet definetly I think good.so my wishes and prayer with you will get you come out of this situation.

We had learning of our saint.Name tukaram.he said in marathi "tuka mhane ugi rahave,je je hoil te te pahave" you search on Google for English translations and more meaning will help for anxity problem.

Wish you ❤️ again.be connect even if you want to chat.take control slowly.