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I need help before its too late..

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I had my anxiety and depression for about 3 years now. Worst part is that I also suffered panic attacks.. I can say its been a hell of a ride. And now, i am much better if i’ll compare and consider.. I fought within those times all by myself.. But now, i have a partner in life.. And he tries to help me fight these things but he feels like it isn’t enough. I am having a hard time to explain it to everyone that when you have it, it is really hard not to overthink things.. I don't like it when he’s feeling he cant help me, coz he really made me feel better.. Its just so hard to explain how these attacks work in different ways.. May we like it or not. It's there, it will always be. We talk about it many times but still ends up he feels that way.. And like now. I am crying coz i feel so helpless.. I feel very mentally ill.. My body weakens as day goes by. I don't feel getting up. My every part of the body aches. I have no one to tell these things coz i might upset him.. or even my best friends.. or fed him up so much that he wanted to leave.. just like everybody did... I feel like a burden to everyone..

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Operalady

Hi I understand how you feel! Are you seeing a doctor? If not you must and if you are you must tell him or her what’s going on with you! If it’s as hard and unpredictable as you say please get medical help for this! I suffered so much as a teen and young adult . You must get medical attention! Therapy and get this all checked out! Something must have triggered it! You must find out and seek treatment! Good luck I understNd I have been there!

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CactusDan in reply toOperalady

Im not seeing a doctor. :( Im just really afraid to go to a therapist.. I don't know what's happening to me. Im so messed up. :( Thanks for replying. I appreciate it.

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Operalady in reply toCactusDan

Hi Cactusdan. May I ask what are you afraid ofby talking to a therapist or doctor?

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CactusDan in reply toOperalady

In my country, going to a therapist makes you an automatic mentally ill person. Someone who is insane. All people will judge you about that. They'll talk about you behind your back.. That is why, people here are kinda off going to therapist.

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Bigbrovaz in reply toCactusDan

Same goes for me, i can’t even mention it to my parents...i wish they didn’t know my challenges because I’ve only manage to make them worried.

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CactusDan in reply toBigbrovaz

Yes.. that’s true.. 😔 even we suffered so much. We dont want people around us, be worried about us. It’s too much to take. 😭

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Agora1

Hi CactusDan, you are not a burden to us. This is an amazing site to come to when you feel alone with your mental health issues. No one can possibly understand what you are going through like those of us who have suffered as well.

Let me reassure you CactusDan that it won't always be like this...

The Mind/Body Connection plays a big part in Anxiety. It starts with a negative thought

that if not stopped will continue to escalate until going into a Panic/Anxiety attack.

The attacks themselves are wearing on the body as well as the mind. That is why you are feeling the physical effects each day.

We have to start in not fighting what's happening to us. Fighting gets us no where.

It will take a change in how you portray what's happening to you. Anxiety does not have

to be a life long sentence. If we Accept anxiety as not harmful, we can work on lowering

the adrenaline that causes the physical sensations.

There is a book written by Dr. Claire Weekes called "Hope & Help for Your Nerves" which

will explain how Acceptance is the "key" in putting you back on the right path and allowing

you to go forward with your life and not stay stuck in a never ending cycle.

As you read the posts and responses from others going through the same thing, pick and choose what may work for you and ignore the rest. What works for one might not work for you. We will travel this journey together. It will be a learning experience as well as giving

you the support you need in not feeling so helpless or alone. I'm glad you are here :) xx

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CactusDan in reply toAgora1

Thank you for this really heart felt respond. I appreciate it. I will try to do what you've said. Hope it works for me.

Operalady profile image
Operalady in reply toAgora1

That was a great response! I will check that book out!

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Agora1 in reply toOperalady

Hi Operalady. Great book but it is also available on YouTube :) xx

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Bigbrovaz in reply toAgora1

I really love this, i will check out the book.

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