Unwanted Isolation

[Jackelope]

Greetings. I hope that this place is helpful at least to some degree for those making use of it.

I inquire about depression due to being largely detached from others. This is not in any way something that I wished for or chose; for someone with my - psychological, emotional, insert your preferred adjective - character, it is quite painful to be in this situation. But it is terribly difficult for me to initiate interaction with new people, although I don't know why. And the handful of relationships I have acquired aren't going anywhere, they just become things where I and another person are superficially acquainted, and nothing of much value develops. The result of this is that I'm just here, I just exist, barely. There's no point in being around, if this is what it is to be. I just hurt, because I am mostly without people in my world. That fact means that anything I could engage with that I enjoy, hobbies, culture, etc., they don't bring me any happiness, because the vast majority of the time I am not in the company of anyone. There is nothing positive in that. I long immensely to change this, but I have tried for quite some time now, and the situation isn't improving much. It is causing my optimism to lessen significantly.

Again, good wishes to anyone taking the time to read this, and thank you for doing so.

[AnxiousSilver]

"Greetings. I hope that this place is helpful at least to some degree for those making use of it."

I personally believe that this is a good and supportive community.

Welcome.

[downinthecrud]

I hear you. I’m in the same place. I find online support groups helpful. Heypeers.com

[designguy]

Hello and welcome here, I think you will find it helpful and supportive for you. I find that as I get older it is hard to find meaningful connections and covid severely impacted and interrupted being able to develop new ones. I think it easier to develop closer relationships when we share similar interests with people. You might look into an in person support group in your area, your local NAMI Chapter probably has some or knows of one. Also maybe take a class of something you like. I also think it's valuable for us to work on our relationship with ourself. Most of us were never taught how to love and nurture our selves and some were even shamed and punished for it like I was so it's a skill we need to learn.

[Hidden]

Hello Jackelope, welcome to the community. I want you to know you are not a lone. I too struggle with relationship and have only a very limited amount of people in my life. I am happy you joined this place and I hope you can connect to people with similar experiences that brings you some comfort

[Nothing_but_books]

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[Agora1 in reply to Nothing_but_books]

NBB, great video. Just saw this now xx

[Nothing_but_books in reply to Agora1]

I'm glad you enjoyed it. Your note was fortuitous. I needed this Jackepope today. Thanks for finding him for me.

[Vonus5591]

You can be loner and still interact with people once in while - I was loner to some degree still am no partner but lately got close to some people - friends - overlap in issues