Scared for a future talk

[coolkitty1934]

My BFF said we need to have a time set up for a serious talk and i cant help but worry....I have already had one best friend break off our friendship. The fact she insists on face face to face doesnt help...I dont know if i am over reacting or not but i really dont want to lose another friend!

[LilyAnnepuppy]

That’s always a hard phrase to hear. I always go to the worst case scenario. I’m going to be rejected, I’m sure.

Whenever my boss said we need to talk, I was sure I was getting fired. When my husband says we have to talk, I anticipate a critical discussion.

Whatever it is, it will be okay.

Have you done anything to upset her? Do you owe her an apology for something? These are thoughts that I explore before “stalk.” Of course I’m trying to cover bases I don’t know how to cover.

Let Go and Let God And let us know how it works out.

[coolkitty1934 in reply to LilyAnnepuppy]

I dont think i did anything wrong...but that has never stopped anyone before.

[Hidden in reply to coolkitty1934]

I agree with Lilyannepuppy. I equate face to face as needing to prepare for bad news. Especially with my boss, but friends/family as well. It’s the terrible anticipation of waiting to hear what it is that bugs me. When someone says “we need to talk in person” my first thought is usually “what? Why wait? Just say it now!” I’m usually wrong and worry for no reason. Maybe your friend needs your help and just wants to talk in person. Keep an open mind. Worrying about it in advance is exhausting and won’t change the outcome either way. Hope everything is ok and it turns out to be nothing major.

[coolkitty1934 in reply to Hidden]

talk will happen this sunday and she said it is not anything i did or because of her feeling anything more for me(not that i ever thought that was possible but mom wanted me to check) we will both just tell any concerns we both have on our friendship.

[Hidden in reply to coolkitty1934]

So that’s great news. Friendships have to be nurtured and keeping the lines of communication open and honest is always the best policy, and keeps you on the same page. See, you worried for nothing! 😀

[coolkitty1934 in reply to LilyAnnepuppy]

talk will happen this sunday and she said it is not anything i did or because of her feeling anything more for me(not that i ever thought that was possible but mom wanted me to check) we will both just tell any concerns we both have on our friendship.

[Crochetchica]

She might want to offer her help.

[coolkitty1934 in reply to Crochetchica]

talk will happen this sunday and she said it is not anything i did or because of her feeling anything more for me(not that i ever thought that was possible but mom wanted me to check) we will both just tell any concerns we both have on our friendship.

[AnxiousSilver]

No matter what it is, we'll be here for you CoolKitty.

[coolkitty1934 in reply to AnxiousSilver]

talk will happen this sunday and she said it is not anything i did or because of her feeling anything more for me(not that i ever thought that was possible but mom wanted me to check) we will both just tell any concerns we both have on our friendship.

[AnxiousSilver in reply to coolkitty1934]

No matter what, we'll be here for you.

[catsrock]

Sending you lots of hugs as you deal with this.

[coolkitty1934]

talk will happen this sunday and she said it is not anything i did or because of her feeling anything more for me(not that i ever thought that was possible but mom wanted me to check) we will both just tell any concerns we both have on our friendship.