Scared of the future

[Simonn]

Hoping someone can give me some coping techniques. I am alway worrying about the future will i earn enough will i be ok will my family my mind is so busy worrying. Why cant i be happy with what i have

[Clarebear86]

Hi simonn I hope you are ok? I think it is normal to think about and worry about what the future may hold especially in times of uncertainty. Did you get some help and support after your last post? I’ve been told to try and challenge my thoughts, to see if they hold any truth and whether they are justified. But while your in the grips of a downward spiral this can be hard to do, so it is important you seek help and support. Trying writing your thoughts and feelings down, that way when you are calm you can reflect on them and take action if there is something niggling away at you. I know I probably make it sound straight forward and easy, but i’ve been there and i’m coming out the other side. Small steps, small accomplishments lead to bigger and better ones.

[Simonn in reply to Clarebear86]

Thank you clarebear. Im only two weeks in to starting citalopram again so i hope my mood will improve. Im looking at self help guides online try breathing and mindfulness to live in the moment. Im alway either worrying about the future or regretting the past. I beat myself up because in my end i feel i should be in a better position in life not that its bad i have a roof over my head a caring wife and two lovely boys. My job causes anxiety as work is quiet and im constantly comparing to others etc etc sorry for the ramble just getting it all out. I hope you are ok too.

[Hidden]

Maybe try to take your focus on the good things in your life.......Like your family. I know it's not easy , however I've found it helps to focus on the positive!

[Simonn in reply to Hidden]

I know you are rightband i try it works for little while then i start going downhill again. Thank you for replying.

[Clarebear86 in reply to Simonn]

I’m on citalopram too, just gone into my second month. It does get better, just give it time. Again I’ve been there and the frantic and the worry I had around time and how it just seemed to be never ending, but it does end. I’m here if you ever need to talk, just drop me a message.

[Simonn in reply to Clarebear86]

Thank you. You are so kind.

[Simonn]

Trying to get things in perspective in my head woke this morning at 4 with bad anxiety couldn't get back to sleep so draining. Wish this wasnt me

[Mommabear08]

I too always find myself thinking and worrying about the future Will I be able to be a good enough mom/dad to my son am I going to be able to show/ raise him to grow into a good respectful and responsible man do I am I showing him enough love does he know how much I love him Will I be able to provide for him no matter what my mind never shuts down it can keep me awake for days on end I pray alot that's all I got I really have no family support his dad passed away when he was a baby and my family have issues with the fact that he is biracial for me Praying calms me for the moment but my mind is like a tornado it always seems to be going and going and seems to get worse and worse negative and even more negative sorry not much help with the advice but I can somewhat relate if you need to chat vent anything

[Sprinkle1]

Hello a few days behind, I am so ill with the anxiety or the depression, I feel like I am going insane which I know is my silly brain playing rotten games with me. You sound like a young person. When I was young I used to worry about anything and everything. Finally in my 40's I learnt to stop. I have 3 lessons and they work I have taught them to others. l. Do not go mountain climbing over mole hills. 2. Worry is like a rocking chair - it is in motion - but it is not going anywhere! my favorite 5. I up up my right hand gingers spread, 50% of the things we worry about Never happen - left hand up fingers spread - the other 50% IF they happen we deal with them when they happen - So Why Worry?

Give it a try, I have not worried in 30 years. Sending you Love, peace and worry free, big hug too. Sprinkle 1