My heart is broken .

[Frenchielover72]

My heart is broken . I had been seeing a very nice gentleman for about 6 months and fell pretty hard for him. He was unable to reciprocate the feeling. Plus I discovered that he was an alcoholic. I just couldn't stay in a situation like that, so I had to break it off with him. I know it was the right thing to do to take care of myself but my heart aches. It's difficult not to bash myself by telling myself that noone can love me then dive deep into depression. My disease tells me so many lies. I hate it! Really, how in the world do normal people cope in life situations without the fight I have to go through? I'm so tired and lonely.

[downinthecrud]

I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. Having a relationship with an alcoholic is hard enough without your own challenges. But the feeling of being alone and "I'll never find someone else" can be maddening. Just remember, depression is a thief and a liar. You absolutely will find the right person at the right time. I'm in the same boat. Send me a chat if you'd ever like to talk.

[Elizabeth830 in reply to downinthecrud]

I like how you said depression is a thief and a liar. So true!

[downinthecrud in reply to Elizabeth830]

It really is

[Agora1]

Hi Frenchielover, you did the right thing in breaking it off with him.

As long as he is an Alcoholic, that will always be his partner.

This has nothing to do with you not finding love with the right person some day.

As for the average person, know that we all go through heart break when we lose

someone we love. Sadness, tears and sometimes regret may stand in the way

for a while but in time, you will see that it was not meant to be Give yourself time xx

[Frenchielover72 in reply to Agora1]

Thank you so much. I know these things but tend to forget sometimes

[CL3V3R-G1RL]

You are not unlovable. Anxiety is a lying b*tch. Remember that.

You are a beautiful person who deserves to be loved and treated with care.

I'm sorry things did not work out with this man. But it was for the best that you made the decision to leave rather than try to stay and "save him". Too many people get stuck in relationships like that. It sucks them dry. Emotionally and mentally. Because addicts like him don't want to be saved. Maybe someday he will get a wake up call and turn his life around. Maybe. But we can't live our lives on maybes.

Plus as you've stated he was giving back what you were putting into the relationship. It's best you go your separate ways.

It's perfectly fine to mourn the loss of the relationship. But don't dwell on it. Grieve yes but remember it's not a destination. It's a pit stop on the journey.

Really being alone isn't terrible. It's being lonely that is. You can have a room full of people and still feel "lonely". Maybe take this time to work on you a little more. Get to know yourself and practice some TLC with yourself. Sounds like you need to. No more negative self talk. You are a good person 🙂 and some day you will meet someone that is worthy of your time. 🫂❤️

[Frenchielover72 in reply to CL3V3R-G1RL]

Thank you so much for your words of encouragement.

[sidjustice]

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[Frenchielover72]

Thank you

[Elizabeth830]

I’ve been married to an alcoholic for almost 30 years. He’s been sober for 15. I will always be #2 or 3 or 4. Alcohol was #1 and when that was gone, he replaced it with another addiction or a hobby. Just once I would like to be thought of first. It hurts now but it will get better. I always thought it would get better when I did everything I could to support him getting sober. It didn’t.

[Frenchielover72]

Oh, wow! I understand completely! My husband was in A A for many years. I was so happy when he sobered up. Then he was at meetings all the time and helping other recovering alcoholics. Trouble was, he was still not there for me. It took me 30 years to realize I deserve to be treated better. Then fell for another man who turned out to be an alcoholic too. It was a big NO for me. I know I deserve better. It's just hard to accept that someone you love doesn't have the capacity to give it back. I wonder if my man picker is broken? Lol!

[Midori]

You have to kiss a lot of frogs sometimes, before the Prince comes along!

Cheers, Midori