Is happiness real?

Hi. I’ve never joined something like this before. I just want to be heard. I want to read other peoples stories and hopefully connect with others on a different level And connect with people that are struggling like I am. I feel like I have no one to talk to about my thoughts and the things about my day. I have a problem with opening up to people and telling people how I really feel. I bottle up all my emotions until I just explode one day. Im trying to find healing and self love but it’s hard. i have a commitment problem with people or plans or just everything. Im emotionally unavailable, I'm pretty sure I self-sabotage too. I get moments when im really happy and just great and doing wonderful in life and then I have times like im in right now where im just sad and im unmotivated and I can’t get out of bed or stop stress eating. I carry a lot of stress on my shoulders and I work out to try and stop that stress but it’s a temporary fix. I feel like everything I do to promote healing is just temporary. It gives me temporary happiness. I don’t know how to find permanent happiness. Is that even real? Permanent happiness. Something to ponder I guess.

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Hello and welcome to the forums! There are many people here that are going through the same struggles and triumphs. Happiness is an emotion to me, so it's not something that "stays" per se, just like sadness is an emotion and does not stay. I do try to live in the moment so when I am feeling happy, I enjoy it while it lasts. When sadness hits, I try to ride that out as well and remember that "this too shall pass". I feel like we sometimes have to create our own happiness rather than depending on it from outside sources. I try to find happiness in the activities that I do and the things I notice in life that stop me in my tracks and just make me smile. That's part of where the forum can come in to help. People have been pretty nice and understanding around here.

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I agree, happiness is an emotion. I’m trying to figure out how to create my own happiness and not depend on external sources. It’s tough to figure out though. I think that’s something I struggle with the most. I need to slow down and “stop and smell the roses,” as one would say. It’s hard to in such a fast paced society and environment. I always feel like I have to be doing something. I know the issues I need to fix. I think I just don’t know how to go about fixing them. Hopefully I’ll find that here.

[AnxiousSilver]

"And connect with people that are struggling like I am."

This community has struggling but supportive people here.

Welcome.

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Thank you for the warm welcome! I do notice a lot of support happening here. I like the statement that stood out to you. That tickled me.

[Agora1]

Dearest flowerchild, Welcome to a warm and caring community.

I can tell you from my own journey that happiness is very real.

Finding myself, loving myself provided me with a deep internal

peace and calm of both my mind and body. It doesn't come from

anyone else. It must come from deep within you. When we depend

on others for our own happiness, we set ourselves up for failure.

Happiness is about finding our passion for life. It's about Gratitude,

Accomplishments and having a sense of purpose in this life.

We can't wish for it, it must happen through our actions, through our

choices. It's about going to bed at night feeling fully satisfied that you

did what you could and not what someone else expected of you.

It's about waking up each morning filled with excitement as to what

that day will bring. Never bored, always learning from our experiences

both good or bad. Life is an amazing adventure for sure.

I feel blessed to be a part of it. xx