The Traits were shining

[silentdreamer20]

The holidays are either happy times or full of anxiety- it really depends on who you're around. I was really anxious this year. Given our family's situation, I didn't know what to expect. Would I be welcomed, or shunned? My sister couldn't come because of the weather, so that sucked. We spent Christmas day with the inlaws. Let me explain just how that went... My FIL was in a fabulous mood (no surprise there), he was welcoming and loving. My MIL was sarcastic and on about everything. We turned our daughter's phone on for Christmas- well, she gave my daughter the 3rd degree about that. She told my daughter she is waiting for my daughter to text her. It's been over two weeks and still no communication between the two because my daughter hasn't texted her... Yep, the adult will not send the first text. She is waiting for the child to text first. As soon as my daughter heard that she was turned off by the whole thing and couldn't believe how childish her grandmother is. Anyway, at the table, MIL asked my FIL to pray over the food. My FIL actually said no, and we couldn't understand why, because he always does. He told her he refused to pray while she was recording... It turned out, she had her phone on the table recording our entire conversation! So she turned it off, but when he started to pray, she stopped him and told him he had to pray over the person who prepared the meal (her) and wish her a blessed year ahead, etc. He told her not to tell him how to pray. Her traits were really shining! After dinner, she asked my husband, me and our daughter what we got for Christmas. She wanted each one of us to tell her each thing and who from. When she got to me and I told her the big things we got from my parents and my sister (furniture), she looked at my husband and immediately said she thought we didn't want anything like that. He had told her not to get anything like that because she has a terrible habit of going to yard sales and getting things we don't ask for, want, or need, and just dropping them off. So, I explained that both my parents and sister asked what we wanted, and we looked on Amazon and sent them links to choose from. They did the same with us. Then came their gifts. It was such a big deal to her that my FIL got two small gifts and she got one. Hers was an expensive gift card to a place she can get items of all things (clothing, footwear, house wear, etc.) Normally, she loves those, but because my FIL got two small gifts (for his grill) it was a big deal. Anyway, it was very awkward. It was time to leave because we were meeting people, and she kept pulling us back for pictures. All of a sudden I had to be in all of the pictures with her (not sure why). We didn't a word from her at New Year... Not a word, any of us. So then comes time for my infusion. My husband asked if she's taking me and I explain that I haven't heard from her. I will ride with her if she takes me, but I will not be the one to ask her if she is still taking me. Considering last month she pulled a powertrip and disappeared, basically making us beg. He refused to ask her and is taking time off of work to take me. So, that's where I'm at. I feel guilty that it's messing with his work schedule, but he could've asked her... I will not ask for any favors. Not with where we are right now.

[Hidden]

What is it with Xmas and famalies not getting along, I don't get it lol

I don't have many at my house thus time of year because I just don't want the hassle, if they don't like it, tough!

Take care.. 😊

[silentdreamer20 in reply to Hidden]

Right? It's amazing! Last year my entire side of the family was here (they're from a diff country), so we had both sides of our family together. It went wonderfully! His family was on their best behavior. My MIL compares everything and makes everything a competition and it really bothers me. I just smiled through it. It was something new for me that she wanted to record the prayer to post my FIL praying over HER. Thanking her for the meal and wishing her a good year ahead- just to post it on facebook... That was a new one for us. Blew us away. It was super uncomfortable. I would rather stay home than be in those situations.

[Hidden in reply to silentdreamer20]

Yes, I'd rather stay home too. People make to much of a fuss over Xmas in my opinion. My sister is like your mil but I always tell her to stop if she starts anything. We haven't been together at Xmas for years though, I hope it stays that way lol

[silentdreamer20 in reply to Hidden]

LOL! I am going back to keeping my distance. I tried for a year to be close with her and I thought it was going great... Turns out she was just acting and still doing her crap behind my back. I can't stand that. So, back to a safe distance I go. At least I know where I stand now. I'd rather that than some fake atmosphere where you walk into a room and don't know what you're going to get. Holidays are wonderful, with the right people.

[Hidden in reply to silentdreamer20]

Distance is a great thing but you are right, the right people make all the difference.

The fake atmosphere is awful lol I'm the only person my sister tries to annoy, we are in our 50s too so it's a bit childish..

[Vasiliki99]

Ah well it's past now. Still if the kids can get on with grandparents it's better. Though I suppose this what it is ......sad