Suggestions Please

[Goldi1222]

I suffer from depression which gets severe at times and my husband doesn't understand depression and gets frustrated and angry with me. I've tried to explain it to him and have given him articles to read but he just doesn't understand. I feel so alone. Any ideas?

[Agora1]

Goldi, I wish there were an easy answer as to how to make others understand

our struggles with mental health. Unless they have gone through the experience

it is very difficult to understand how this affects our life.

As much as I have suffered with Anxiety and Agoraphobia over the years, I never

did have any depression. For that reason alone, I don't address strictly depression

posts because I just don't know the feeling.

That's why it's nice to have a safe place like this site where people can support

each other because they can sympathize in what it's like to live like this.

[b1b1b1 in reply to Agora1]

Interesting. I always thought depression went along with anxiety. I will have to think about this some more. I am definately anxious, but I don't know if I am really depressed. I just sort of assumed I am, but I could be wrong. b1

[Goldi1222 in reply to Agora1]

Thanks for taking the time to reply and caring. It means alot

[Goldi1222 in reply to Agora1]

Thanks for your kind words

[Agora1 in reply to Goldi1222]

We are always here for each other xx

[Toddzen]

That sounds difficult. Maybe it scares him. But you deserve compassion and love. My experience is people have such a hard time being kind to people with Depression.

[lifted in reply to Toddzen]

Very true

[shoppinghabit]

I understand how you feel, I have the same issue. I agree, it is extremely hard for others to understand if they’re not going through it. I hope it helps to know you’re not alone. I welcome suggestions from others here as well.

[Goldi1222 in reply to shoppinghabit]

Thanks for helping me realize I'm not alone. It DOES help

[Hidden]

hi gold, I’m so sorry that your husband doesn’t understand your depression. This has been a long struggle for me as well, trying to explain anxiety/depression to my hubby and family who do not suffer from any mental health issues. You said you gave him an article on it. Assuming he read it, I would say he probably just doesn’t want to admit that he understands it. Maybe have him watch a uTube video on it might help. But most likely he does “get it” and just doesn’t have the courage to admit it. Like he’s in denial … which he may think he’s doing you a favor when in actuality it’s hurting you more. My hubby admitted to me after years that he just never knows what to say when I’m in a depressive state. And maybe he just really doesn’t know what to say. It’s just a bridge too far from his “norm” to attach to. Idk, but maybe for people who do not suffer from depression it’s just out of their realm of comprehension. How nice that must be! We DO understand here. Many people here with lots of advice and support for you. If he never comes around, we always got your back without judgement. Always here and always understanding. 🙏❤️

[Goldi1222 in reply to Hidden]

Kelly Kay. You have no idea how much it helps to know that you and others do understand. It helps me know I'm not alone. Your words "Many people here with lots of advice and support for you. If he never comes around, we always got your back without judgement. Always here and always understanding. 🙏❤️" have moved me greatly. Thank you for being kind enough to respond. Thank you for your compassion

[Hidden]

Always hear and completely understand your situation. You can IM me anytime you like. I can totally relate to husband’s not getting depression. It’s kind of my specialty! 😀👍🙏❤️