Hi everyone, this is my first post to the group. I am a long-time sufferer of anxiety and depression. They affect my life to the point where if it was left up to me I'd never leave my bed. I struggle every day to motivate myself, to get even the basics done during a day. Even when I do, afterward I find myself exhausted both mentally and physically. It's so difficult to make but especially keep friends when this is my life. I have no real friends because of my conditions. I miss engagements, don't answer or return phone calls, and have no desire on most days to do much of anything.
Thank god I do have my husband of 12 years, although he also suffers from anxiety and depression. He's really the only friend I have and the only person I know who truly understands. But he has the same struggles I do so I can't just unload all my problems onto him or even depend on him to be there every time I need support. To those of you who are like me, what kinds of friends do you have? How do you even begin to ask someone to understand your way of thinking and the daily struggle inside your head? I have one long time friend who has stuck by me for many years and even he doesn't understand and gets his feelings hurt if I don't respond to his calls or messages every time. When I try to explain how I feel to him he doesn't get it. To him it's simple: if I'd just answer the phone we could talk and I'd feel better. He doesn't get that most of the time I have 0 desire to interact with anyone, especially the chit chat about weather and pointless dribble that many seem to find enjoyable. At the same time I do get lonely, mainly when my husband is having a rough go of it and I start to feel alone and wish I had someone to talk to. Tell me about your friends/lack thereof. What helps you when you get lonely?