Where am I?

[Camee]

Just joined and am reading the comments below?Very different from what I expected.Is it always like this or it is a special evening/ppl?😜

[Sabbath1]

Idk it depends on what posts you are talking about.

The GI Jane stuff is new to me lol I been here a while never seen that stuff on here before. The rest is usual from the posts I have seen

[Dolphin14]

Welcome to the group. The post I think you are reading is from a poster that has been banned and keeps returning to the community. Please don't get the wrong impression. This poster has a history here.

This is a wonderful place with many supportive and caring people. We are all in different stages of healing.

I've been here for years and it's been very helpful for me

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[MadBunny in reply to Dolphin14]

Looks like the post's gone . No doubt he'll start up again🙄

[Dolphin14 in reply to MadBunny]

He does have another one up but not getting any attention with that one. He's persistent that's for sure 🙄

❤️🐬

[hypercat54 in reply to Dolphin14]

I have missed this. Who is it? Or pm me please.

[Dolphin14 in reply to hypercat54]

It's bones. He was banned this am and came right back. He was also banned right before Xmas

❤️🐬

[hypercat54 in reply to Dolphin14]

Oh no not him again! He is an absolute pain.

[Dolphin14 in reply to hypercat54]

Yes and unfortunately we have a new member here who has witnessed his antics.

[MadBunny in reply to hypercat54]

Yes, and he was quite vile in the way he spoke about one of the ladies earlier.

[hypercat54 in reply to MadBunny]

Not the one he was vile to before?

[MadBunny in reply to hypercat54]

Yep.And referred to her by name 🙄

[hypercat54 in reply to MadBunny]

Oh no not again. He is obsessed.

[MadBunny in reply to hypercat54]

He quickly disappeared then came back again under a different name about half an hour ago, with another disgusting post targetting the same person. That too has now gone. Its getting out of hand and I wish something would be done about it.

[hypercat54 in reply to MadBunny]

The only ones who can really do anything are HU. Are they aware of him? I think they are, but the only thing they can do is ban him with each alias.

I think they can trace his IP address unless he is using a pool of them in which case no chance.

[Dolphin14 in reply to hypercat54]

HU is well aware and doing what they can to get him off here as fast as possible. They have done a great job

[MadBunny in reply to Dolphin14]

Sure is .

[MadBunny in reply to Dolphin14]

That ones gone now.

[Dolphin14 in reply to MadBunny]

Is he gone? I can't remember his names anymore

[MadBunny in reply to Dolphin14]

Sorry- I meant the other post's gone now .

[Dolphin14 in reply to MadBunny]

Ok... there's so much going on I'm losing track

Thank you

[MadBunny in reply to Dolphin14]

👍😁

[MadBunny in reply to Dolphin14]

He's just come back as Back in the USA. Worse than usual. So much for ignoring him

[Dolphin14 in reply to MadBunny]

🙄🙄

[Adamj in reply to MadBunny]

but people keep feeding into him it will never ever stop if people keep giving him attention most here know what he does so just report him don’t even say nothing and move on. He’s a troll the more you feed a troll the more they’ll Come back

[MadBunny in reply to Adamj]

Thats true. I try not to reply and always report.

[MadBunny in reply to Adamj]

I tried to reply to you on the new post by the troll but its already gone. It seems now that even ignoring him doesn't work. That one really was vile. No place for stuff like that. Sadly the lady it was for saw it before it disappeared 🙄

[Adamj in reply to MadBunny]

then for their safety maybe they need to stay off the site sadly until hu can figure out their shit.

[MadBunny in reply to Adamj]

Maybe. Its a shame if they have to though, and lose out on the care and friendship.

[Sillysausage234 in reply to MadBunny]

I know Snowdayze left before xmas he’d targeted her unfortunately

[MadBunny in reply to Sillysausage234]

It's so unfair and sad that people should be victimised and forced out when they come here for care and support.

[Adamj in reply to MadBunny]

yes it is unfair and sad but he’s not the only one who does it or make people feel that way especially the forced out way that’s one of the issues with this group there’s no good moderation you go to other groups on health unlocked and there’s so many more active moderation team who actually speak.

[Sillysausage234 in reply to Adamj]

that’s the point they are staying away and a few left

[Isinatra in reply to Adamj]

All females are at risk when he shows up. Not just me. If I left, he’d still come back.

[Arymretep in reply to Adamj]

well said Adam 👍

[Afibflipper in reply to Dolphin14]

I was quite shocked seeing that on day one of joining, I went off the group but then rejoined - it’s not phased me and I think it’s best not to reply or comment if you suspect or aren’t happy, trust your instinct and just report - when they don’t get the attention they command they’ll tire and might seek professional help

Hi to all of you on here, glad to join you 👋

[Dolphin14 in reply to Afibflipper]

I love your user name. I know it's not a good thing to be flipping in and out of afib but your name made me laugh.

Yes, you are correct ignoring is best. I've ignored a few that have targeted me. I do have a problem with someone disrupting the site. We've had a few people come in and cause big problems with vulnerable people. We've also lost some wonderful people who left out of fear and feeling unsafe here. That's when the community comes out to stand up for each other. I do make it known to him his behavior is not accepted. I also point out that we have spotted him. New people come on and don't realize the history behind someone like this. It's dangerous.

My advice

1) never go directly to PM with someone you haven't observed first. Keep the conversation out in the open.

2) report when you see something.

I'm sorry you had to see this. I'm happy you came back and I hope support is what you gain from being here.

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[Afibflipper in reply to Dolphin14]

Glad you had a chuckle at my username 😂

I had just signed up and had inboxed someone with help advice but they are now out of reach so maybe I was scammed - when I saw the post I did read 2/3 times and thought 🤔 so came off but luckily my head is in a really good space so came back in the hope I can help others like the other forums helped me immensely

Sounds like they’re someone in need of real help themselves but as you say many are actually vulnerable so I’ll be vigilant

Thanks for contact have a great day (I got an hour and half sleep this 24hr) all the best for 2023

[Camee]

Thanks ,Sabath 1 and Dolphin 14. You are right,it must be the banned poster.Thanks for replying too,it is 00.40 hrs here.Good night!Though as a chronic insomniac I might be back soon😘

[Dolphin14 in reply to Camee]

Good night. I'm up at all hours of the night. Hope to see you around

[Adamj]

you made the comment that he likes attention but yet you’re one of the ones who continues to keep commenting on his stuff and it just keeps pushing it to the top of our feeds.

[MadBunny]

He really is on a mission today though.

[Adamj]

you’re missing the point of it just continuing to give him attention to be reckless and hateful and how every comment on it just pushes other posts of people actually looking for support away and they get missed. I’ve dealt with idiots before as being part of moderation teams on other websites the best thing to do is to NOT interact with them continue to report and if someone had the power to just continue to ban them eventually they will get over it and move away from the site. The people who are getting harassed need to report the messages if they are getting threaten report to their local law enforcement and protect themself if if protecting themselves means leaving an online support group for the time being then that’s the best thing.

[Adamj]

how is giving him attention solving the problem? Because the reporting button does do something which reporting him isn’t ignoring him it’s just not interacting with him. I understand you’re want to stick up for people but it isn’t solving it by making him comment at you when he still comments to other people you’re just giving him an extra person to comment at and frankly there seems to be three main people he wants and you’re one of them so you are giving him the attention he wants

[Isinatra in reply to Adamj]

The FBI doesn’t give away its modus operandi, so you’ll just have to trust the process.

[Adamj in reply to Isinatra]

so the fbi told you guys to keep giving this guy attention??

[Isinatra in reply to Adamj]

I can’t say anything further. It’s an ongoing investigation. 👮🏻

[Sillysausage234 in reply to Adamj]

there’s a lot more to the story you don’t know he continues as we speak right now he’s pming someone under another name I’m not really interested in your opinion on the matter tbh

[Adamj in reply to Sillysausage234]

okay lmao y’all can have your little attention party ima see myself out of this drama filled hole of a group

[Sillysausage234 in reply to Adamj]

you seem to be the biggest drama queen on here from what I’ve seen ….seeing as though you think it’s funny

[Mrspjsmom]

First of all welcome! This group is full of kind, supportive people. The comment you must have read doesn't represent the majority of the group. Unfortunately we have a few people who pop up and can be cruel and inappropriate. I choose to ignore them but you will figure out what's best for you. Post anytime and I'm sure you will get more good than bad.

[RemySue]

It's generally a very supportive helpful group

[Babe1213]

We are a varied and wonderful group of people, we read your comments and think about them and how best to help you on jour journey. If we have had experiences such as you have we very often share and say how we pulled through, what works for us and what doesn't. I think you will need to take time to get to know us, and how this will help you. I personally don't think its all about making someone 'feel good', it is also about being truthful, pointing out pitfalls and challenge - we all need this kind of awareness. Hope to hear more from you in the not too distant future. It would be helpful to know where you are writing from i.e. country, city, etc.

[dmt1121]

Better to talk about your concerns and thoughts and see the responses, then get a sense of who's on this site. 🙂

[Trainchaser]

Welcome. I am relatively new myself. How you doing today?