lots and lots of people look at people and say....if only i could be that confident or or ror but im scared and nervous and we all know that ...well....u know confident people are just born that way..........as a long long coach and trainer.....some people are .....naturally bold........however........85 percent of my students.....starting terrified..........and same with our thoroughbred horses........which this one is.............is NOT naturally body and fearless...............that comes from years and years of slow development and training with a supportive non puniishing mentor rider............these horses do not innately know how to jump..........they are trained ...first over poles on the ground........and over lengthy time and endless repetitions.......they learn to trust their rider who never burns them..........and develop their confidence and skills...........same as riding a bike or basketball etc...........they are always sensitive but the rider is their confidence who they learn to trust...which is not overnight...........and we know both horses and riders have tension..........why wouldnt they.......unless they are not breathing............however.............with practice and practice it discipates and confidence develops...........countless small sucesses build confidence.............i and countless horsmen and women have done this basic method since forever.........nothign new........but the key is a patient rider who never punishes.........they have to face terrain and ditches and water........all terrifed at first..............but..............can learn to overcom e their fears with patience same as riders develp in their confience...............practice is the key...............practice practdice practdice til u cant forget.........til its rote................just like dribbling in basketball..............nothign mysterious.......
ive trained countless students absolute petrified of horses.........ya .........soooo what........our job is to bulid confidence through controlled experience............we dont throw people in over their heads...........we never do that .........never.........u rehearse at the level ur comfotable with til ur bored and ready for more..........no magic formula ...nthign new that will change in a second............repetition builds confidence ............even with senstivve riders such as my self or senswtive horses........all of which have so called anzieryt disorder or panic...............of course they panic...............duuuh...........soooo what.............we do things to calm them down and be patient and things they can do.......................nothing mysterious..............ive trained and coached for 45 years........all skills with patient coaches develop v i must be stupid because....................NOOOOOO so it takes time to train the brain and body.............we coaches..............dont care...........why would we..............oh.ur not an instant star?? an instant grand piano mastrer? or whatever? why would u?? ooh u have jerk off critic family like mine.......who see the cup empty rather than what we can do.............why ?> who knows they are know it jerks...............
we coaches know a thing or two..........we train confidence we train devlopment of skills and security .........slow develoment no instant...........but over a year or two.........u cant believe the differnce in our students and us............we jsut get so sick and tired of the mental health system tryhing to reinvent the wheel.................get experience with the right people.......right environent ........same as our horses and students.........who are all nervous...............all have show nerves and anand ya..........so what? why would anyone care........we never talk about it.......its a common as breathing...........after a few years.................that horse or rider or actor or actrress or waiter or driver or .............dramatically different.............in the right enviroments that are not harsh not screaming not endlessly cricictal that solmeone made a tiny nistake.......................sooooooooooo what.............no...........u practice and rehearse and rehears and rehearse...............then .....u feel ready and secure................no magic formula........
this horse courage is not innate.............its developed...........and has the confidence in his rider......who would never ask him someoting he cant do................learned through years of slow small successes and this rider never burinng or punishing him along the way as his skills and confidence devleops.........starting at the right lower levels..geting tons and tons of milege and experinece..........the tense horse...........starts to relax and devlep confidence................
nothing new.........
people can do what they want...........but us coaches just dont get all worked up cuz solmeone has normal tension or anziety........even from PTSD...........ya why woulnt they .......ok lets go fishing........
ya but they have.......................so what lure are we goiong to use..........ya but this person is anxious or has depression or or ..............ya heard ya...........so how do u feel aboutthe zoo or what fun stuff are we going to do or make or
ya but i dont kjnow those skills and its scares me ........................ya i heard ya............soo what fun stuff are we going to do or
we know our students are scared
we know our horses are scared.
were smart enough unlike some xxlxijoijuaoijuaopiju jerks...........to not talk about it all the time and build confidence......through experience...........
easy.............as the system works..............millinos of horses trained the same way........people trained the same way...........since the greeks........slow ..........suupportive non criical repetition..........starting with the basics and not overwhemign the student with too complicated of process.............our job to build success...........were very good at it..............called.........................endless reptition.......til its second nature or..................practice..................but todays world students want to do one time and urs supposed to be an expert.........or dont start early in their studies and the panic...........because..........they dont listen to coaches..............u start early ............and practice practice pracitice...........not worrying ur abby normal because ur pettfrified..................why wouldnt u?
all students.......all new emplyees in the main...........are nervous..
ya.............sooooooooooooooo what.............in six months time............ur rockin......
ya but u wont want to train me as im a beginner or or oor endless worries and and a
been doing this for 45 years..........there is................no failure ....................in our classes........this isnt surgery............i get people are scared...........seen it worked with it for 45 years..........
see u tomoorrow ish............guarenteed u or ur stupid family are way harder on u than i am.............we start everyone at the beginning..............we dont expect genuses or progenies............we train everyone same as eveyone goes to car driving school....................helps to be shown and trained.......
there is no failure in our schools our classes
just do it.........tell the critrics and know it alls to go jump..........as coaches...........we hate critrical parent s or people...........we tell them to leave the arena and shut the fick up..........
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