My first doctor...totally destroyed my life - long story
Had abusive coaches and rival mother critic mother...controlloing dominatting, naricistics....powerful....all the abuse through vet school and beyond....
u expect it in life and with coaches...to a degree....as an athlete...ur there to ge critiqued and u come mentally prepared - not as unarmored kid but thats another discussion..
u dont....expect it from doctors based on what i assume most people perception of doctors are.......horrendous assumption and mistake on my part.....total misinterpretation ...total of my statements....and poisoned and colored by my mother ...(i was hosp for exhaustion 160 hour clincial weeks) ....last thing i needed was be dumped on by a doctor and pnurses.....(know zero about my professions)....
i fired........my doctor............next doctor i have....if ever do.....i will have a contradt
i am NOT a patient....im a client.....and i retain all final decisions.....period......or he orshe isnt my advisor.....(u all do waht u want)
they have no authority in mh life regtardless of any consideration....
i will* report.....any doctor or any nurse .....that abuses olr mistreats any patient.....but .....i do NOT advocate any abuse to nurses period or doctors
I just left a farm.....hard work....all fine. Two boss synario- one good .....one horigle ....i can not have two conflicting masters.....does not work
i will not work or endure......abusers......silence is enabling which i will not do.....
i will NOT enable or assist or empower abuse........i will NOT tolerate abuse to any p;atient....if i see it occuring....
my ethos......what u all do or are emotinally ready for......those are ur decsions
i say this here in our special circle of fellow survivors'
thank u for listenin or letting me share.....speak only for myselrf
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Trust and support is what you expect from doctors or nurses. They abuse this and you should fire them. They should be reported and formal complaint should be made. They misuse their power and they should lose job.
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tortal agreementr....u shouldnt get dump;ed on for openint up.....why have a doctor that dumps on u and u just met........walk runj
Hi Brig. I totally understand where you’re coming from, more than you know. I was abused by a terrible psychiatrist back when I was sixteen. My parents were shocked at what he did to me, they didn’t know what to do. He really traumatized me and I’m pretty sure some of the hospital staff knew that what he did was wrong but they wouldn’t do anything to stop him because they’re afraid of losing their jobs if they say or do anything. These doctors have too much power that they shouldn’t have. Some of them seem to think they’re God. Whatever you may have been through, I believe you. You don’t have to convince me. 🙂
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u help more than i can ever say....they always turn it around.....just as in female assaults.....
own up.....dismiss this doctor NOW.....like people say....the staff knew
fortunatley .....we all face our maker......St Peter will take care of these jackels and '
the angels will wrap trheir healing wings around those they have violated and our loved ones......
thnk u so much...
rebelint against abuse is hardly a charater flaw.....wouldnt care if it was.....not livin with abuse.....
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soooo incrsbly sorry went through that life long scars ....sooo sorry....outrageous
Doctors destroyed my sons life too, I praise god hes still here !! He has Tourette’s syndrome and has never once had proper medical treatment. Tourette’s usually comes with other diagnoses such as autism ocd , and others . I still find it hard to believe in this day and age that he was treated sooo poorly. I just don’t understand!!! Been absolutely everywhere for help and I just get looked at like I’m crazy . He’s 23 and I’m still fighting but getting nowhere !!! I have considered selling my to take him to USA to get treatment but he was so bad I wouldn’t have been able to get him in the plane. Thankyou for standing up to abuse !! I’m a domestic violence survivor so I thank his for good people like you . You’ve suffered abuse too !! I would stand up for anyone now , that’s being abused too ! It’s damaging beyond belief
horriblde horribel....rhey do alot to us behind trhe scenes but too many conulers dismiss it....polyanna......LC is the only one that lets me be real.......
outrageous what they get away with in the back corrisdors.....St Peter they all ......all will have to face.......hope they are ready for a very very very warm** after life in the lower regions....i wont....shed a tear......
not talking small whatevers....such is life.....tallking tone and intent...mean to patients...slamming them for needing a rest, secretr deals, shariing personal informarion, dumpong on patients....tip of the iceburg...just because they hafe the p;ower doesn mean they ur.....i know this as an insrrudor...my job is to lie throuh my teeth ...who needs to be constantly reminded of trhings we already know or are out of our control........who needs abusive coaches or auhrirties........dumping on clients? what nurse would go up to a partient and tell them...ur just a grumpy old man just becaue they were told to do.so...talk abut blind obiedience.....they know us fo 24 hours.......meaning the dont know anyint about us int he outside world..........what nurse or doctor who say such a thing....answer the one that is no longer a nurse or doctor inmy book........rhey better not dump; on any of my firends.......we wil be in themangers office in twney seconds....nurse or no doctor or no.....
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to be clear...not talking hair splitting....my doctor called my residency and accused me of stealing from trhe hosptal.......total bullshit......a fellow do of ctor on his own initiaitve unloaded his truck to me....as a send off.....just being kind......
tip of rohe iceburg.....
seen stellar nurses....no one cares
seen stellar doctors.....no one cares
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we are always patients to them not people who run orgn and biz....
they ......are part of rhe stigma and problem
dont camp;ange to end the stigma when they shold start with themselves
stop talking at people or down to them
stop the patronization etc.
all doctor and nurse should be p;atients for two months....the system will change over nihgt..
save the good ones.....dolphin et al.....speak up!!! these are rhe stand outs !!!!!!!ethese are the ones that listen and care
the rest......got a whole....lot of work..if u want to workiwth people...
waitresses do far better......people skilsl and those who are naturally good listners and life exoperience......
thank u all ....helped a great deal........the system denies abuse....ya it never hails in colorado either.....
dolphin knows how nurses that dare to listen get punished......soo wrong.....efery time i stick up for nurses tho....i get eaten alive.....im done.....they can fight their own battles
frustrating we can protect our friends and chose the good doc ans nurses or staff.....we want the good ones saved for our friends and loved ones.....system doesn care either way.....stil why be a self defeatist....im very selective who gets to take care of my friends....and not shy about it............good docs and nurses have nothing to fear......bad ones,,,,, we should have a code word.......flowers mean good ...........black rose means situation or staff bad....get me the hell out of here....
What about this brig 57 , my son attempted suicide in a very horrific way , needing 140 stitches to his neck , 4 hours in surgery, a night in ICU , then 1 single night in the psychiatric ward . The scars are unbelievable, and the amount of blood was incredible, he slashed himself over and over all about 4-5 inches long , missing the jugular by 2mm. Then they released him the next morning, I begged them to keep him in . They said “what makes you think he’s going to suicide?” He was texting me saying I’m going to hang myself when they let him out , I tried to show psychiatrist but he wouldn’t look at it . My son was released then went missing , found unconscious covered In wounds and blood from crawling through the bush for days .( There was a major search for him , helicopters , dog squad . All stations alerted , rangers in the National forests alerted )Someone found him on a train station , called the ambulance, he was taken to hospital again, released a couple of hrs later . I said DO NOT let him out if your sight til I get there ( a couple of hrs away ) . My mother and I raced down there and put him in the car . I don’t like to swear but WTF . I’m confused, angry … and I just thank god everyday he is still alive . I’ve made a proper formal complaint to health commissioner, i was passed onto mental health commission and now I’ve been told I have to make a complaint against dr . I have to do it , I wouldn’t feel right if I didn’t. I haven’t had a shocked reaction from anyone!! Only my mother a little. Am I going crazy ? Is it just me who thinks this in humane , bizzare ……. I just don’t understand, I’m so confused by it. It sounds too unbelievable to be true !! I don’t think I can do this on my own , I think it’s time to get a lawyer. I’m still in shock
pardon my errors in words- beg u to hear*** my support, my total belief.....my sympathy again....it must blow the mind.....that people can be so blind and clueless- lke letting someone drive a dangerous car and full of kids......ANY rightful parent who be up in arms.....ANY right ful parent would say- officer....arrest this driver protectively...........Ur reaction is totally corredt and totally appropriate as the intent is NOT punative but PROTECTIVE and I agree there are times when pepole need hosptialization prortectively or supportively....esp if trhe staff is sympathetic.....i have nooooo whatever.....against people needingt deserving help and clearly he was suicidal and clearly he needed PRotedtive care against the biohemistry in his mind......I totally ** am supportive of that.....adn totally share ur sense of disbelif and dismay and how can this be??? i am share ur sentiments - the sysetm - blows ur mind both ways.....
im increcily sorry for the nightmare u have and still are gtointg throutgh....yes everone abbandons such familiies ......i feel for u so much as all here do.......(they restroed me) pardon tthe typing (hand numb( ......cant image waht ur goin throuh ane so alone........
Thankyou so very much !! That’s the only shocked response I’ve had since it happened,thankyou so much . I should be asleep, Im getting baptised tomorrow, a big picnic with lots of people tomorrow. Been preparing food … all day . What’s wrong with me I should be peaceful tonight. My friend who I’m helping is staying the night and she just blew me off , I was so cross I can’t sleep. I wish she wasn’t here , because find her really hard to be around but want to be kind to her . Crappy night !!!!
Thankyou, I really needed to hear that !! I swear to you its true , it sounds like perhaps I’m making it up , or exaggerating or perhaps looking at it from a wrong perspective, but it happened, thankyou for your reply !!
no...i can hear a lie ......i one bilion percent blieve u.....x ten trikon triollion......horrible what u have and are going through....my /oour door open.......attorney general?????
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