Please tell me if I am wrong

[Sadmama]

A coworker informed me today that she does not care about the welfare of anyone that she does know or love. That shocked me to my core. I care about people I don’t know. I care about things a little too much sometimes, but I have always felt that we are on this planet to try and make it a better place for everyone.

[Sadmama]

I mean to say anyone she does not know or love.

[JasmineJaz]

The way I see it, you are definitely not wrong, and I personally share the same value with you. But she is not wrong either. You just have different opinions on how things should work. I probably won't be a close friend with those type of people, but it's totally fine to just be colleagues.

[hypercat54]

I think if you spread yourself too thin you run the risk of disappearing.

[Hidden]

Hello, I've come across people like that many times over the years. Many reasons why they have that mentality. I found that most times it's either a coping mechanism, denial or they are simply full of crap and trying to put up some type of tough guy act. And of course, there are those people who genuinely don't care about anyone but themselves or their own. But I can tell you one thing with 100% certainty, when people like that fall seriously ill, like needing a transplant type of illness, they tend to make a 360° attitude change. There's nothing like an asshole who needs a kidney to become humbled. Unfortunately I had a family member that was exactly like that. He passed away at 32 years of age and was one of the biggest a-holes on the planet. That is, until he needed an organ transplant then suddenly he loved the world. Takes all types to make the world go round

[designguy]

There is nothing wrong with you for being concerned about and having an open heart for others and all life on this planet, I think it makes you a better human and is integral to also loving yourself. My guess is that your coworker has developed the attitude she has as a protective defense from emotional pain and possible trauma she has experienced in the past and is protecting herself from experiencing it again in the future. She may also be using it to judge and condemn others who she perceives to be less than her which is part of her own defense of low-self-worth/self-esteem.

[emmi331]

Let me put it this way: I'd much rather have you as a friend than your coworker.