Am I wrong?

[Skjones]

My wife doesn't feel supported by me but won't tell me how, she works alot and I work as much as I can I work full time. She works 2 jobs she isn't talking g about money I try to be there for her anyway I can and have shown that I would drop anything to be there for her. I don't feel supported by her and have expressed this that I need some emotional support and affection she is distant she told me to give her space and she would come to me so I've been doing g that letting her have her time but she never comes to me. This is aggravating my ocd thoughts and having a toll o. My depression and anxiety as well. I told her she needs to tell me cause I can't read he mind. I. Stuck and don't know of what to do.

[Blueruth]

She works two jobs. You don't (I presume). She is probably exhausted. What I see is you asking her to take care of you. What if you offered to take care of her? Ask her what she needs -- don't under any circumstances assume. It is very possible she will be blown away.

[Skjones in reply to Blueruth]

I already do that and I don't ask her to take care of me I ask that if I'm having an episode to try and be compassionate and be emotionally available she gives all her attentions to the dog I barely get a hi when she gets home. I clean the house I run her baths make dinner and lunches for her and I'm lucky if I even get a hand to hold at night or when we are on the couch together or even do anything together

[Skjones in reply to Skjones]

And when I try to take care of her she gets upset and says to leave her alone or thinks I'm doing it just cause I might be in trouble the thing is I thought things were going good with us I know why I want to be with her when she asks me when I ask she says I don't know

[Skjones in reply to Blueruth]

When I ask what she needs or wants she always says nothing

[Blueruth in reply to Skjones]

She sounds angry or the worst: apathetic. I think you need to get into marriage counseling.

[AnxiousCanadianChic in reply to Skjones]

I would also suggest marriage counselling. If she can’t/won’t open up to you, maybe she will to a professional.

[Skjones in reply to AnxiousCanadianChic]

We have done that

[Blueruth in reply to Skjones]

You didn’t mention that. What did you learn about her?

[Mumma_h]

Would it be possible to say honey can we sit down and talk this through ? I can see we’re both struggling and I love you so much and let’s get it all out so we can truly understand each other and be there for each other . Just a suggestion, forgive me this wouldn’t work for you

[Skjones in reply to Mumma_h]

I've tried that she never wants to talk

[Mumma_h in reply to Skjones]

😢, I know this easy to say and harder to do when you’re trying to help someone and you love them so much . But you must look after yourself and make you r mental health a priority. It won’t be taking anything away from her to look after yourself as well . Try , if you can , to stay positive, and just keep doing what you’re doing. and she will see how much you care about her . It’s really really hard when someone you care about so much just doesn’t want to talk . I pray she will open up to you soon. Just asking her what SHE needs a wonderful selfless trait .

[Skjones]

I was able to get her to talk a little but