High ANXIETY and Depression by JOB

[eant65]

I just got a new job like 5 months ago and now I find myself on probation due to an error I made. I cant stand my manager she is so two faced and is a bitch. She is very condescending and makes a lot of assumptions which makes me very tense. When she communicates its more like an interrogation and I am ready to quit.

Since I have taken this job, it has created so much stress, that my regular routines of working out, going out and socializing has been eliminated due to the mental stress of this job. I have some money saved and I could quit and get a new job and I am seriously considering it, however I would prefer to get a new job so I can quit, but I dont know how much i can take. Since I been at this job i drink half to a pint of whiskey a day and now i have built up an immunity whereas i dont even feel it anymore.

Should i quit my job immediately or wait and look for a new job?

Any recommendations?

[just_keep_swimming]

feel like if you have the money saved to quit and find another that would be best if the job is causing you a lot of mental problems and hardship

[Blueruth]

think about the fact that you are bringing your work home. Find another outlet. Heavy drinking isn’t conducive to finding a job.

Side note….women get called bitches by men and women a lot just because they are in leadership. What you perceive as condescending may be assertive with a man. Imagine her as male and what would you call him? Bet it isn’t gender specific if it is even insulting. If that isn’t possible I recommend turning in your notice.

[Sphinx21]

Don’t let this lady take your job away from you ! This maybe her character painful as it is I would say actively look for another job one where you haven’t got to deal with that ! But don’t jump you may regret that her character is her problem not yours find some way to let it wash over your head deep breath’s I really hope you find a lovely new job soon 🙏

[kim111]

Blueruth is correct on cutting out the heavy drinking. It lead to extremely poor decisions and bad consequences for me. I’ve been sober for nearly three years and don’t miss it.

The job situation is a tough one. Only you can determine what you can do to improve your work relationship. You can attempt to communicate your concerns privately and professionally in a non-accusatory way with possible solutions. Or it may be too volatile and a job change is necessary. I left my career of 37 years because of my mental health. Life goes on.

I wish you the best of luck in this difficult time.

[TeddyBear3]

The job is not worth it. I am retired now but I did my share of job hopping. I could only take the stress so long depending on the job. It is not worth you getting into heavy drinking.

[designguy]

I suggest you try to approach it rationally and try to determine how much more stress you might have by not having a job instead of sticking with the current one while looking for another one. As i got older and was looking for a job, I was dismayed by how much age discrimination I encountered and it took longer to find a new one than I expected but that was me and you may not experience that.

[emmi331]

Please don't self-medicate with alcohol. As a recovering alcoholic, I can tell you that doesn't work. Adding a drinking addiction to a horrible job just means you now have TWO problems. You may want to go to some AA meetings, where you will find empathy and support.

I don't know about where you live, but most areas have more jobs than people to fill them. Perhaps you can begin a discreet job search....

[ScooterJoe]

Since you have just been on this job for 5 months, what is your previous job history? If you find a pattern of having had multiple jobs and just can't seem to find one that fits especially if it is due to the same complaints each time, maybe instead of the job causing you stress and depression, it's the stress and depression that you already have and are bringing to the job that's causing some problems. I would think that turning to drinking as a relief may mean you already have some issues in that department. Not pointing any fingers at you but just something different to consider. Might be helpful to consider getting some clarity on your own state of mind before making any major changes.