My cashier job gives me anxiety

[anonymous_on_here]

I'm a full-time cashier. I've been working there for three weeks. It's a tiring job. Yesterday I had an unpleasant customer, and today I also had one. Today before going to work, I was feeling dread about the job. It's hard to handle the job now. I'm looking for a new job, but I can't quit until I get a new one. I'm having anxiety about work tomorrow. I was already planning to look for a new job before the unpleasant customers. Now I would rather just quit and not give a two weeks notice, but I can't do that.

[Agora1]

No you don't want to quit w/o giving a 2 week notice. This will only go against

you with your next job. Employers can understand that not all jobs are for everyone,

but you don't want to put that fear of you up and leaving with the next employer.

Good Luck in finding something more suitable. Whenever you work with the public

believe me, I know there will always be those persons who got up from the wrong

side of the bed. xx

[anonymous_on_here in reply to Agora1]

Thanks. I guess I'm not able to handle customers when being a cashier. Even though I'm a guy, I'm not tough.

[Agora1 in reply to anonymous_on_here]

It's not you my friend, it's the mentality that the customer is always right lol

I use to make some extra money during the holidays by working in Customer Service

at a large mall. I was also in charge of the line to see Santa. You wouldn't believe

how I had to bend backwards when Santa took his breaks. The parents (esp moms)

were furious. A couple times, I would take my own money and buy $1.00 scratch

off tickets and give it to them with a smile. Wishing you luck in your next

adventure. xx

[anonymous_on_here in reply to Agora1]

That seems hard. The mentality that the customer is always right allows customers to take advantage of the cashiers, who don't have power.

[Agora1 in reply to anonymous_on_here]

I hear you xx

[Agamemnon2022]

One day a client, whose name was Miller, was extremely mean to me. While I was polite in front of him, when I returned to the office, I began slamming doors and cursing him up one side and down the other. Luckily, I worked for my Dad, who had vast experience in my losing it. Also, he had been through anger management himself.

He waited for me to calm down and then laid a piece of paper on my desk. It was how much we made off the client a year, about $40,000. He said to me, "Yeah he's a a...hole but he's our a...hole. You go piss him off and he'll go be somebody else's a...hole." That's where the "client is always right" comes from.

People will always be rude. All you can do is to control how you respond to it. In the above case, the client was going bankrupt, because his clients wouldn't pay him what they owed and he had just been diagnosed with terminal cancer. It had nothing to do with me.

Then my dad smiled the biggest smile and said, "Ok Miller. See that's what you do son, when this happens. Oh and you think F... you buddy in your head."

I miss my Dad.

[anonymous_on_here in reply to Agamemnon2022]

Ok thanks for telling me

[designguy]

I've been where you are and had no clue that I was suffering from low-self-worth and an inability to validate and stand up for myself. In my case, growing up I was even shamed and punished for showing any signs of being proud of myself or trying to stand up for myself so I was clueless about it.

You might spend some time learning about it and cultivating it for yourself, it will definitely improve your life. There are good books about it and also a lot of good info on youtube about it.

[anonymous_on_here in reply to designguy]

Thanks for the advice. I'm bad at standing up for myself, and it's something I should work on.

[designguy in reply to anonymous_on_here]

You're welcome, I know you will find it beneficial spending the time to do it.

[STEM_Dad]

I've worked in retail, and I preferred customer service more than anything else. (I'm talking actual customer service, helping customers to find what they are looking for.) I didn't like the pressure of sales quotas or "upselling". I felt "stuck" when I was a cashier, and felt like I was never fast enough.

Now I work tech support, so I get to still use my customer service skills, but in a different way. Plus, I get to work with tech, which I find interesting. But helping people has always been very motivating for me.

Part of career progress is trying things and finding out what you like to do vs. what you don't like.

So, for you, cashiering is definitely in the "don't like" category.

I say, put in your two weeks notice, and focus on counting down the days until your last day. Plan to do something nice for yourself when you are done with that job, so you have more to look forward to. Then try to push through.

(Not the best advice, I'll admit. But I've had to do that a few times in my career.)

[anonymous_on_here in reply to STEM_Dad]

Thanks, I don't work there anymore

[anonymous_on_here]

Thanks, I stopped working there

[STEM_Dad in reply to anonymous_on_here]

I'm glad for you. I got interested in the conversation, and forgot to check when it first posted.