No Confidence

[Southern_Man]

Hi, I’m new to the group. I’ve struggled with depression for years. I really have issues with self esteem and self confidence. I’m a man and in the past, this has made me feel weak and I’ve tried to hide it from everyone for years.

but I want to be able to look in the mirror and really like that person - not just put on a “mask” in front of others. I want to see the good qualities but I can’t shake seeing all my flaws and faults.

[Hidden]

Hi! Welcome to the group. You aren’t alone in your struggles. I know that’s not much help. I’m wondering if in all the years you’ve been struggling…have you had anyone to talk to? Have you had a complete medical work up that might uncover problems that could be exacerbating your issues? I’m hoping that having to be strong hasn’t prevented you from professional care. Please, if you haven’t, seek professional treatment. We’re always hear to listen but it sounds like you really need to get some professional input. You’re young and have your life ahead of you. My best to you, M.

[Southern_Man in reply to Hidden]

Thank you! I’ve recently seen someone for a couple of sessions, but honestly didn’t get a lot out of it. And I can’t afford to keep going routinely. I guess my sessions seemed more like me talking but when I left, no real advice to help.

[Agora1]

Hi Southern_Man and Welcome

We can be our own worse critics. Self Esteem and Self Confidence comes in time and with

maturity. Working on the issues as to what caused you to have less self worth can help.

Thinking openly about who you are and the reason you are here can help you establish a

more positive approach to yourself. Look in the mirror and have a talk with yourself.

Take off that mask that you have on for other people. Let us see the real you. You are

worthy of self respect and love which must start with you.

We are all here in this moment of time for a reason. And I'm glad you are a part of

our virtual family of support. I care xx

[just_keep_swimming]

hi, what is one thing you love about yourself ? I struggle with self esteem and body issues . I have been practicing positive affirmation and even got an app that gives me positive affirmations . I am my own worst critique , but when I feel myself being judgement of myself I take a step back and then say something positive about myself instead of trying to focus on all the things I think are negative .

[designguy]

hello and welcome to the group. Most of us were never taught and a lot of us were shamed and punished for showing any signs of self love or self-worth or trying to stand up for ourselves. We took on others beliefs and programming because we were so young we didn't know better but as adults we can learn how to investigate our programming, conscious and subconscious beliefs about ourselves, others and life and get rid of the ones that don't work for us and reprogram constructive ones. There is a lot of good info on youtube about this as well as books and programs. I like a book by Julia Kristina, "Drive your own darn bus" as well as her youtube videos.