anybody out there?

[Bookishbunny]

I’m really lonely. No one in real life cares. I want to die. No one cares about that either. I haven’t heard anything from my online friends in weeks so ummm… if there’s anyone out here that wants to talk I’m here.

[b1b1b1]

Hello! I'm sorry you are feeling so low. Are you usually feeling this down or did something happen which caused it? I am in the US and have just come back from taking a walk. It is really hot here, so almost the only time you can be outside for any length of time is the evening.

[Bookishbunny in reply to b1b1b1]

It’s warm where I am too. I hate hot weather it makes me anxious and I always get made fun of when I get sweaty. Then I feel gross and the OCD kicks in. Ugh! I have Covid, but I have to work from home and I don’t feel well enough. I’m getting pressure to lose weight. My therapist quit and I can’t find a new one I like. Some other things happened as well but I just don’t feel like my life is worth living. I want out of it. This is probably more than you bargained for sorry. I have a lot going on and no one listens to me.

[Skiigyrl]

Please don’t die. Maybe you can find some new friends on here. It will get better.

[anonleo]

I understand how you feel. I feel so lonely and I have no friends. It’s really hard at times when there’s nobody to talk to.

[Crich1982]

Please know that even in the darkest times you are loved and cared for. We are here for you!

[Misunderstood86]

I've always felt the same, it seems like the world doesn't accept you for you. Ppl we think will be there don't be unless its for show. We all have to stick together and help each other.

[lovetodance2018]

Hi Bookishbunny. Thank you for reaching out. I know there are a lot of us at HU that are available to chat. Please feel free to pm me.

I have been there where it feels like no one cares and everything is hopeless. But that is false feelings and beliefs. It is the depression talking.

First know that God loves you so you are never alone. I surround myself with Christian Contemprary music such as Never Alone - bit.ly/2wsdHPr.

Also, everytime I struggle with those thoughts I have four techniques that help me:

1) Healing comes from the inside out. It starts with letting go of the things of the past, forgiving and changing our focus and behavior. Becoming aware of what you need through self-care and personal nourishment. Take time for yourself - you are worth it. Like taking walks, baths, massages, mani/pedi/, listening to uplifting music/sermons and anything that makes you feel refreshed and renewed.

2) The 557 breathing technique is take 5 deep breaths in while thinking good thoughts about yourself like I matter, I am special, I am strong and then hold the breaths for the count of 7 focusing on those words about yourself, then let out the breath slowly for 5 seconds letting go of any anxious, self-defeating, unhealthy thoughts. I do this one to three times a sitting.

3)The gratitude journal is writing down something good every morning and night something that went well in the day, or something I appreciate about myself. Taking our focus off of the anxiety and depression and focusing on positive uplifting things really helps. What you think is what you believe. So thinking uplifting things you believe those things but the reverse is true - thinking negative self-defeating things, you will believe those.

4) Emotional Freedom Tapping - bit.ly/3AVYNiX You use pressure points to tap on those points while you repeat positive uplifting things to yourself.)

I will be praying for you. Feel free to pm me if you'd like to chat. Hugs and God Bless

[lovetodance2018]

How are you doing? I have been praying for you. Hugs

[Bookishbunny in reply to lovetodance2018]

I’m no better sorry. I’m struggling a lot at the moment and I feel very overwhelmed and lonely.

[lovetodance2018 in reply to Bookishbunny]

I am so sorry to hear this. Just know you are not alone. There are others here who know and understand the struggles with depression and anxiety. What helps me is reminding myself this is temporary I will feel better. Trying to distract your thoughts is key and if you feel overwhelmed, I find not doing the things for a bit, helps. I try to do things I enjoy like listening to Christian Contemprary songs, going for walks, playing games on my phone. Even though I don't feel like it, when I do those things it keeps my mind off of my thoughts. I may still feel bad, but I am not focusing on that when my mind is busy. I continue to pray for you and if you want to chat feel free to pm me. Hugs and God Bless

[Bookishbunny in reply to lovetodance2018]

Thank you