I need to get out of where I am living, to migrate, I hate this area, but I am stuck here due to my health, I am going over the edge!

[Adlon57]

I am non religious, but this 'area' is stuck on a bi religious community, like a cancer drawing people into it? This particular area is like a coven of witches especially tainted by one community, I am a historian, I tried to write a history of the area, twice, but it's bigotry sickenly came to the surface each time! I have just retired, I want to remove from this area voted the most 'boring place in this 'province' now I will be put into some sort of 'home', I am claustrophobic, so it will be worse, I have terminal epilepsy, my family cannot understand my plight? 66 years of this DUMP am I going to die in some sort of home shackled, forgotten, it looks very like it? Due to my bad health ALL my life, I have NEVER been allowed to travel out of this area, medical shackles holding me here, during the "Troubles" my mother who was English, gave me an Irish name, but living in a community, of the 'other' side and their strict religious ideals! Even engaged to a girl of the 'other' 'side' almost oblivious to their way of life! Obviously in the end I evolved my own beliefs, completely different to either' side, my only real comfort, which has really strengthened my everyday beliefs! My mental state of mind weakened by my plight, my medical specialists agree that to downsize from my place of abode, would certainly improve my health, I am regarded as a "one off" due to my unusual medical CV, almost a lab rat, due to my unusual medical reactions to various medical processes over the years! Living on my own for 19 years, a survivor, I own my house, a solitary haven, but now with early dementia. Get me out of here! Please!

[blackcat64013]

Hi and thank you for your post 👍 Life certainly throws us some curve balls which challenge us no end. I am in Australia so can tell you that if you are over 65, you are eligible for government assistance from a dedicated agency (My Aged Care). Someone comes to do an assessment and finds out your needs. Funds are provided to make the lifestyle changes you need to be safe and comfortable.

I would suggest talking with your GP who knows how help their senior patients.

I hope you are not feeling the effects of the heatwave too badly🥵

Best wishes as you navigate the next stage of life 🦘

[Isinatra]

Oh, Adlon. Do you have to live in a “home”? Does downsizing really mean that? Losing my independence is a big fear for me. Finding a safe place to live is at the top, too. But safety is foremost.

[Adlon57 in reply to Isinatra]

It's beginning to look like that Isinatra, if I downsize or move, I lose all my 'contacts' I have gained all those years, as you say safety is foremost, its a big step.

[Isinatra in reply to Adlon57]

I know that downsizing can be an eventuality. We put it off as long as possible, but some actually look forward to it. And losing one’s familiar contacts can be a sad thing. I was going to move across the country for my safety and was going to have to start over brand new. It fell through. Heck, I might have to move across town later and I’m balking at that, but I’ll adapt. That’s what humans can do….adapt for survival. And it’s not always as bad as we think.

[Adlon57 in reply to Isinatra]

Yes when I told my family I was going to downsize and out of the area, you could almost hear jaws drop, most of my acquaintances have moved lost touch or died, I am currently looking for a specific area, then checking up the likes of available, taxis, banks, dentists, hospitals, supermarkets, chemists, plumbers , railways, even places to see. I don't like todays society so I do not want to be in the 'mix'! As you said survival and adapt to do so! My own motto tattooed on my left forearm "Adapt through adversity" but as I said before I'm a tough old bugger, to even make 66, I must have done something right across the way?

[Isinatra in reply to Adlon57]

It’s good that you CAN look at options for your move. It sounded like you were locked into moving somewhere you might absolutely hate. Some of us have no choices at all. You must be doing something right, yes, including good genes. Europeans are tough.

[Adlon57 in reply to Isinatra]

It's what I HOPE I can do, but getting there is the hard bit, I still feel like a tiger in a cage, getting away from where I am at present, which I have always abhorred, and have been all my life, this could be the biggest move in my life? Being a genealogist, I know my good genes "Europeans are tough"

[Isinatra in reply to Adlon57]

😊💪🏼

[Dolphin14]

Aldon

Life can be so unfair. I'm so sorry to read what you are going through.

Is assisted living an option for you? Independent but help is there?

I know how hard it is to lose your independence and all that you have worked to build around you. I have seen this happen to so many people.

My heart is with you Aldon

❤️🐬

[Adlon57]

Thanks Dolphin 👍I have to now search all available options, but number one is moving/downsizing, I'm a grumpy ol bugger, but a survivor, an independent one at that, new grounds beckon!

[Dolphin14 in reply to Adlon57]

That's the right attitude You got this

🐬

[Adlon57]

Really beginning to feel all the responsibilities I am going to take on, a whole new field to explore, but I need to move from this 'area' that is the top of my agenda! I guess I will have to gain new contacts?

[Adlon57]

Unfortunately here there is not all little boxes for everyone to fit into around here, that is something I have learnt about this particular place one of the reasons I want to move, too many 'nit pickers' around here?😒I have got a specific new area lined up this hopefully a start to somewhere new, I don't want to be swallowed up in the stigmas and old ideals of this present bigoted society I am living in now!

[Adlon57]

Yes Luna_Child now I reached the auspicious heights of a elder statesman🙄😒 more doors should be open to me👍