Trying to make a friend and being used

[Roukaya]

Good Afternoon

I hope you are all keeping well

I would like to explain that I befriended a new Morroccon neighbour thinking I could have a friend .

I realise she only calls me if she has problems living here and when she was almost collapsing I stayed with her when she lost her keys .

I have seen she has her own group of friends and I realise she never wanted to be a friend .

I am sad as I realised I gave her some gifts when shdd we moved in and even a card when it was our religious celebration but her behaviour is someone who has tried to use me

Must learn to value ourselves and learn that real friends care and do not use you

[RemySue]

Sorry this happened to you. You sound very nice and caring-it's her loss.

[Roukaya in reply to RemySue]

Thank youI hope you are keeping well

[TangledUpIn]

Friendly, kind people like you and me can get easily burned by our easy going nature and our kindness😔

[Roukaya in reply to TangledUpIn]

Good evening I hope you are keeping well

I tried to befriend her but knowing that she only calls to be of benefit to her has made me sad

But I realise this now and I will be careful of her motives

Had this happened to you

Have you had an experience of being used by those needing your help and discarding you once you have been of service

[TangledUpIn in reply to Roukaya]

Yes, this happened to me in a very big, life-changing way. I'm still not fully recovered😒

[Roxylox in reply to Roukaya]

Sort of, yes and it's a horrible feeling

[animefan94]

Be mean instead. Being nice gets you nowhere.

[Roxylox in reply to animefan94]

I thought that was the way to go for a while-be mean. Personally though l would find being mean to someone only makes me feel bad afterwards.

When l'm nice to someone or try to help someone it brings me joy

Naturally it certainly brings more joy if it's appreciated.

[TangledUpIn in reply to animefan94]

That's what I thought too animefan, but our society doesn't like mean women lol🤨 I found out when I tried being mean - my troubles intensified and bad luck ensued🤐 So I'm back to being nice 😉

[Midori]

You have hit the nail on the head Roukaya. You need friends, but they would have to be friends who don't take advantage.

Cheers, Midori

[Roukaya in reply to Midori]

Thank you I hope you are well

[Hidden]

I’m really sorry this happened to you, some people can just be incredibly cruel. I hope everyone can agree that as long as you are on here, you’ll always have lots of friends ready to help or listen to you! 😁

[Roukaya in reply to Hidden]

Thank you for your kind words I hope you are well