Making friends

[Weelon]

I have come to realise I don’t connect with people & have more difficulty making new friends. What can I do to change apart from the obvious?

[Hidden]

You do not HAVE to change anything. Right now you are acquainting yourself to me. In due time we may become chat buddies, or not. From there to understanding friends, & so on. On this forum you will find kind, compassionate folk. All the Best

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

PS: Sorry for my inflection, I thought you were new. See you’ve been here about a year. Tell me what you think of me, ok?

[EndUser13 in reply to Hidden]

As Joe's go, I think you're a bit of a Salamanca 😁

You seem to have a good sense of humor ...or maybe I'm reading all your posts wrong, it could happen!

[Hidden in reply to EndUser13]

I love fun people

[Weelon in reply to Hidden]

Finding a positive person who lifts you up is the key. I’ve been told I have a good sense of humour.

[Hidden in reply to Weelon]

We will see, Weelon, we will see Really hope ya do Later

[Weelon in reply to Hidden]

Thanks for your response. Advice noted. Look forward to chatting with you.

[Hidden in reply to Weelon]

I’ll be around

[Weelon in reply to Hidden]

Hope you have a good day.

[EndUser13]

Perhaps nothing? Maybe you just need to get lucky and look in the right place. I'm not sure who is qualified to answer this question, for anyone.

A lot of people here have mentioned feeling left out or wish they had more friends, this could be a good place to try and find some... and if it doesn't work out, so be it, you can still move on.

[Hidden]

I’m not good at making friends either. Friends come and go. You’re welcome to chat with me on here.

[Weelon in reply to Hidden]

They do. Thanks will do.

[AnxiousCanadianChic]

I find it’s really hard making friends… at least it’s hard to make loyal and real friends. I find most people want quantity over quality whereas I want quality. I can easily make “friends” but they NEVER seem to become close friends or loyal.

[Weelon in reply to AnxiousCanadianChic]

I prefer quality over quantity too. Lately I’ve had friends who have put me down & seems like I’m never good enough. Tried talking to both. Looking back, one was actually quite blunt & nasty. I had to call it a day.

[AnxiousCanadianChic in reply to Weelon]

I have a “friend “ who is 75 and he’s always criticizing me. I sit in the backseat due to my anxiety and he thinks it’s awful that I’m being chauffeured around.. I’ve explained it is my anxiety and I feel safer in the back. He criticizes me for not talking politics, for talking to certain people and so much more. He’s not even really a friend anymore, more of an acquaintance.

[Weelon in reply to AnxiousCanadianChic]

It gets you down. I’ve also got family who does the same & I have to keep my distance. Maybe he’s not listening or understanding you. That’s the problem with some people, they don’t want to.

[AnxiousCanadianChic in reply to Weelon]

With him it’s the huge age gap too. I made friends with a woman my age, she was dating a guy from the karaoke place I went to and we hit it off right away, then after 6 months or so she became obsessed with a new female co-worker and now never talks to me or hangs out with me.

[Weelon in reply to AnxiousCanadianChic]

Is he your type of friend? I’ve got neighbour’s who are in their 70’s & both are great. I had more in common with one than the other. Sadly the one I got on with recently passed away. I’m glad I got to know her, she was 1 of a kind. Hope your karaoke friend realises what she’s missing.

[Willow2022]

We move around a lot and this I lose touch with friends and now have stopped making an effort to make friends. I tried to tell myself at my age I don’t need friends but I found when I am really depressed or have anxiety, I wish I could could talk to someone who just understands and won’t see it as a broken record. I guess that is why I joined here 🙂

[Weelon in reply to Willow2022]

That’s when I need someone too. Hopefully we can chat with each other.

[Dee-Dee00]

I wish I knew sis. I think it’s our perspective? I’m out of ideas too.