A breaking relationship

[Dot_]

Hey.

This is difficult to post but I very much need to vent and I don't know where else to go. I'm unhappy. It's been a slow build up but my relationship is struggling. It's the most smallest things that are tearing me up. He doesn't understand how alone I feel doing all the housework. He doesn't understand how alone I feel when every moment of his is wrapped in his video games. I'm threatening couples counseling. Nothing else I've done has helped. I've communicated level headedly, I've communicated angrily and tearfully. Nothing has changed. He says he loves me, but how if he won't listen to my needs. These are just some of the small pile of issues. I'm not on here wanting some advice or fake positivity, I just want to feel that I am justified in how I feel.

[32Punch]

Hey Dot - I hear you. Your feelings are valid and deserve to be heard. This is a good place to vent. Keep posting. It sounds like he is getting his needs met because you do all of the housework and he gets to tune out the world and enjoy his video games. It doesn't sound like much of a romantic relationship - more like you are the parent or the help. At least from what you've posted here. It doesn't sound like you are getting your needs met.

Perhaps it's time to start thinking about moving on? Why settle for this?

[compasnet]

...sounds like you're a special person who should have be treated special like the special person you are. IMHO, you need to let others (especially those who hurt you) know that.

[Hidden]

Your feelings are just that. They will come & go. I think you need to take a step back, look at your life. That what you want. No? Change it & be #1. Be kind to yourself. Love, Care & Understanding. All the Best

[Kainan]

If he is picking video games over you, that is a problem. Sounds like you are already taking on the role of a mother.

[Dot_]

Thanks for the replies and justification. My partner and I did finally talk it out. I played out all my feelings as honestly and bluntly as I could. All I can do now it see if any changes are made. Thanks again all💕

[Bella_lee]

Hi Dot, how are you doing? I know how difficult it must be for you but it's good that you've now been able to share with your partner how you're feeling and what you need from him. I really hope your partner is understanding and things change for the better in your relationship. Wish you all the best!

[Dot_]

Hi Bella_lee, thanks for asking. Things with my partner have minimally increased. I feel as though he doesn't feel the pressure of me potentially leaving. I need more than the bare minimum. I decided to initiate a break today. Not a break to talk to others, but a break from us. A break from the obligation to one another. That's gonna be difficult to maneuver since we live together. I don't want to talk to any family or friends about it. I want to keep this matter private. Hence why I came here to be able to be free of any preconceived notions of my relationship.

[Rungranny]

Couples / relationship counciling is very helpful. They are skilled at teasing out the real issues and suggestions of how to improve your relationship, if that's what both of you really want. At very least ( as in my case) it clarified what deep down I already suspected that my husband had no interest in repairing or improving the relationship and gave me the courage to leave him. Difficult at the time but I don't regret it at all.