Where is safe??

[Survivor1687]

I really love this community, it's helped me alot. Along with another community I found within the past month or so ... I was having a really good day until something happened in one of the meetings I was attending that brought back alot of fear and is sending me back into a place I have been struggling and trying very hard to be free from now for a long time. I'm tired of feeling violated and like there is nowhere I can go that is safe😢 I don't understand why this won't stop, why this is continuing for a LONG TIME now and I'm at the point where I'm just done trying to grasp or understand why. I just want it to stop. How do I make them stop 😢 This may be the last post I post. Nowhere is safe. For me. 😭 Love you guys

[Blue_81]

Hey Survivor I want to say this is a safe place. Its been for alot of us. There may be some bad actors in here. I hope you stay, you been very active here. Was this a work meeting that triggered those symptoms? Maybe a good nap will help, have u seen luna’s post today about the bear 🐻. Its a cool post. We are here for you.

[Survivor1687 in reply to Blue_81]

It was a specialized recovery meeting. I just wish somebody understood my situation.😢 I don't even understand why this is happening honestly so how can I expect anyone else to 😢 part of me just doesn't want to try to understand or grasp why anymore I just want it to stop. I'm tired 😢

[Survivor1687 in reply to Blue_81]

I must admit... The bear post def cheered me up a bit🥲 Blessed to have people here like Luna who brighten things up a bit. 🙏🐻💜

[Blue_81 in reply to Survivor1687]

Indeed! Hopefully you are doing better today. If you need to talk, im open for PM. Hope you have a better joyful day.

[hypercat54]

Hi I understand how you feel but no where can ever be 100% safe. Unless you stay in your bedroom and hide under the bed! But then the bed could fall on you or a big spider could seek you out.....

I think it's important to remember that 99.99% of the time it is safe. And if you feel threatened you can rely on others to help. I do think you are better to try and learn to deal with it, maybe through therapy, as it is the nature of life to always be a bit risky. Unless you try and change it then nothing will change and nowhere will ever seem safe.

I do realise it is far easier said than done though, but it is important to understand the need for healthy change in order to be able to grow.

This is as safe a community you will find anywhere online and much better than places like social media ie FB, Twitter etc.

Make a plan that if it happens again then seek out others online who seem nice and tell them. They will help.

[Arymretep in reply to hypercat54]

Yes I agree, most people on here are very understanding as they have been through so much too, so give us a chance to help you 👍

[Louie35]

Don't give up! You are stronger than you think!!!

[Bill181]

I'm sorry to here this kinda does make me feel sad but no one can force you to do nothing..but sad that there's a chance that we wont b hearing from you that part makes me sad I hope u feel better soon

[Survivor1687 in reply to Bill181]

I really don't want to leave here 😢 I just feel like there is nowhere I can go where I will not be harassed/stalked & feel violated. I don't want what's been happening to me to happen to anyone else and I feel like in order to protect others I must stay alone. Not allowed to have friends or any support people in my life, It's what certain people want, it truly is not something that I want and I don't know how to make it stop😢

[hypercat54 in reply to Survivor1687]

It happens to all of us given enough time. You aren't protecting anyone by staying alone. You are only hurting yourself.

Make a plan like I said and it will give you a feeling of control.

[Bill181 in reply to Survivor1687]

Maybe it's time you put your foot down and say you are your own person

[Louie35 in reply to Survivor1687]

You don't have to stay alone, just 1 real friend is worth a thousand fake ones!!!!!

[Survivor1687 in reply to Louie35]

I really need one of those right now 😢

[Nothing_but_books in reply to Survivor1687]

I hear you. I'm sorry you've been hurt.

If you feel safer leaving us for a while, do it. Do what you need to do to care for yourself.

We are only virtual friends here, but we have a good group. Come back and reach out when it's good for you.