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Hi, Everyone. It's been a long time since I've posted on here, but I'm in a very dark place right now and can't seem to get out of it.

I've struggled for decades with the feeling that I am not loved. It seems as I age it only gets worse when I perceive any type of rejection from anyone.

I attach myself to people very easily - which is a problem - if they show any hint of love towards me I'm over the moon. I'm not referring to romantic love, just the love of friendship. I just want to be loved and know it ... feel it ... know someone is out there who cares about me and how I'm doing. Someone who I can talk to, touch, be with.

I feel very alone. My poor mom tells me how much she loves me, but it's not the same, she has to.

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b1b1b1

No, your Mom doesn't have to tell you how much she loves you. My mother did not love me and made that very clear. There are more than a few people on this site who did not receive love from their mothers or who have had mothers who were cold and emotionally cruel.

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Not_Free in reply tob1b1b1

You're right ... I should be more sensitive. It just hurts.

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b1b1b1 in reply toNot_Free

No, I was not criticizing you for being insensitive. I was just trying to point out that I think your Mother really does love you when she says she does. Mothers who don't love their children generally don't say they love them. Try to believe that your Mother really loves you. -- not that she is just obligated to say so.

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Not_Free in reply tob1b1b1

Thanks.

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Roxylox

I can sympathise. I feel l am not loved by many.. i see b1b1b1 points out you are loved by your mother and it does count. I too was loved by my mother. I think when she died when l was 13 l lost something very precious, and suffered for over a decade. I am crying here.

Cherish your mother while you have her.

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Not_Free in reply toRoxylox

Thank you for the reminder. I just want something more, you know.

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Blue_81

We are meant to love, to be loved and be with someone. That being said, People have come in my life and left but my mom has always stayed with me. I wish the others will have stayed but unfortunately it has not work that way. Wishing you the best.

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my2bordercollies

I feel very similar to how u do.

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Not_Free

That's comforting. Just want to run away from everything.

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Samson1953

Have you ever thought of maybe adopting a pet from a Shelter? Maybe a dog or kittycat. They will love you uncondionally. I have my kitty Samson who I love n gives me so much joy n he loves to be around me. Just a thought... Rose

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Not_Free in reply toSamson1953

Would love to, but my living situation doesn't permit it. I love animals.

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