Is it ok to be scared to be loved???

[Midnightwolf1]

I can love my friends and people but I'm so afraid of being loved by someone.... And afraid of falling in love like the romantic way....

[Hidden]

Some people with horrible past usually feels that way, did something cause this or is it just fear

[Midnightwolf1 in reply to Hidden]

I don't think anything caused this from my past. I think it's just a fear.

[Vonnah]

I feel the same way actually. I hate the constant feeling of being abandoned. I just think I'm meant to keep getting abandoned my whole life too. I've dealt with abuse and neglect so.....yeah😕

[Midnightwolf1 in reply to Vonnah]

I'm sorry, I just so scared that I don't think its possible anymore...

[Vonnah in reply to Midnightwolf1]

I believe it's possible for you. You will someday find the right one for you. That person will love you for who you truly are and think your beautiful inside and out. They will not take you for granted and appreciate the little things you do for them. It may seem far off but just give it some time. I believe in you!😊

[Midnightwolf1 in reply to Vonnah]

Thanks

[Marshall64 in reply to Vonnah]

What has happened to you in the past doesn't mean it will happen in the future. I worked with a girl (Lorrie) who had an alcoholic mother that never paid attention to her. The dad was in and it of lorrie's life. Lorrie went on to getting married and having three kids. Since Lorrie's mom left her under a pool table to sleep while the mom drank, Lorrie didn't have a role model but i can tell you that Lorrie is an awesome mom despite her neglectful mom.

[Vonnah in reply to Marshall64]

Wow, thanks for sharing that. From what I've experienced it has made me know from a young age how i want to raise my kids and how i don't ever want them to feel and go through what i did😌

[Marshall64]

... but falling in love happens many times when you are not planning it or expecting it. It is an awesome feeling. You ARE worth being loved by someone.

As the saying goes, there is a lid for every pot out there.

"Tis better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all." It is very true.

[Midnightwolf1 in reply to Marshall64]

Maybe.. I just don't think I'm ready for love yet... I don't know...

[Marshall64 in reply to Midnightwolf1]

You might not be ready but it can still happen (falling in love and / or be loved). Haven't you seem romantic movies? 😊 Sometimes it does happen that way.

You are young. You have your whole life ahead of you. Don't worry about it (kind of hypocritical of me since I'm neurotic).

[Midnightwolf1 in reply to Marshall64]

Thanks , I am young so I don't need to worry about it to much.

[Marshall64 in reply to Midnightwolf1]

I hope I'm not sounding glib. Enjoy your age. Enjoy being in the now (again hypocritical of me - I'm always in the past our worrying about the future).

[Midnightwolf1 in reply to Marshall64]

I'm the same way being all in the past worrying about the future. But I'll try.