My Dad and Mom have decided they want me to inherit their home and property. They prefer that I live there, not sell. I’m torn. I don’t think I could live there with all those memories and make it through a depression too. I would like to add that I’ve got my own plans and dreams.
My Mom would understand my wanting to sell but I think Dad wouldn’t. Any advice?
Is this a "promise" to give it to you if you "promise" to live there or will they give it to you before they pass? If it is in your name you can do whatever you want. What is their (or his) end game? I mean what is the point in making sure you live there? You are supposed to grow up and make your own life!I started responding with something different and then re-read. I think this is a question of Amy! amydickinson.com/ask
I understand how the memories would make living there so difficult & cause a lot of anxiety & depression I have so many bad memories & flashbacks from my childhood up into my 50's & I don't even live near the homes we were in! I can see how inheriting a house would have a few perks, but your mental health is the most important thing to consider. It's good that your mom would understand but if your dad wouldn't that's more stress you don't need. Maybe he would come around or maybe not but again what's most important is you. I'm so sorry you're having to make this really hard decision. If you have a friend or family member who understands what you've living with & going thru maybe they could be there to support you when you talk to your dad. I know how incredibly hard this is going to be for you, Have you talked about this with a Dr? I wish you strength and courage thru this incredibly difficult time.
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My story about family, coping with depression, and lack of support
