im 30 i suffer from PTSD and high functioning autism. I used to have friends in high school and that disappeared quickly when I did drugs. I've only had 2 serious relationships who I met up with after meeting online in chatrooms. The most recent one having dissociative identity disorder made me realize I need to make changes. The biggest change is going to be to stop talking to people in chat rooms and start going out.
I started getting ready yesterday to go out to a bar. Then I checked the Uber rates and they're fucking ridiculous. $20 for a 15 minute drive, I might as well just drive myself and risk getting caught drunk driving home. I mean what a joke, that's 5 gallons of gas for a 1/2 gallon car ride. Absurd. If I still had my bike it would be a 30 minute bike ride like come the fuck on man. 20 bucks my ass.
Then I started looking at pictures of the bar and thinking how I'm probably just going to be miserable there. So I gave up and bought a membership to a dating app. It just feels hopeless. Girls get so much more attention than guys its like why should I even bother trying
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I would be careful how you frame this. Many people, male or female or otherwise, struggle to find partners or feel like they are desirable.
I also wonder if you might focus on looking into exploring hobbies or interests in group settings and allow yourself to find community and acceptance in a less high stress environment.
In that setting you might connect with someone who you have something in common with and there's the bonus of it being a connection where you can (hopefully) see them as humans first and not a means to an end it as a measure of your own journey. And if not, who cares? You get to enjoy a hobby and meet a bunch of new personalities while doing it!
I had struggle finding relationships. Through my preteens and into my early twenties. Especially am I right twenties I started to think about getting involved with someone. But how can one do that in my situation? I have generalized anxiety disorder, panic disorder and social anxiety. How can I meet someone? I have no job and collect disability for my conditions cuz I'm basically a shut-in. So how do I introduce myself to someone?. Like hey I know I don't have the financial thing down and I'm not a successful go-getter. But if you look past that you can actually see I'm a decent person. I'm funny I read I read a lot and love pop culture. I'm into video games and comic books. I love animals. But how can I do that when people judge me before they even get to know me. But eventually I did find someone. And it was through a fan forum no less. We were friends on MySpace that we didn't really talk. And when Facebook came along I just added him because I had friends who were friends of his. Eventually we did start talking and here we are 9 years later and engaged.
Well, im a girl and I do not get much attention (you might say ‘she’s probably not very good looking’ and you might be right but the idea of women getting too much attention doesn’t always work) ive had a hard time making friendships as a person with social anxiety and I get awkward too.
I used to rely on chatrooms a lot in the early 2000’s but they are mostly gone and the ones I have found are usually filled with people from Europe or India (nothing wrong with that, just need friends I can hang with irl and thats too far from me)
Ive tried meetup, platonic friendship websites and ive had little success. Im not autistic but I am introverted and I have my own struggles.
I understand how hard it is but I agree with amoeba43 get into your hobbies and find groups to do them with. Meetup is a good place to start then just googling around like me for instance, I couldn’t find bookclubs near me and i googled. Found a few but my social anxiety got the best of me and wasn’t successful, still I keep trying.
Good luck on your endeavors! We are here to support and offer our experiences.
Yep same age as you buddy. But I’ve never had any success with the online thing and meeting in person. Many people just fine with text and online communication, but I much rather have it be in person. I’m not that social of a person, but I can maintain a steady conversation and have good social skills. I can be out and meet up with strangers and converse with them but it’s only a temporary thing. Relationships are hard to stick. You just know when you and someone else click. I’d be miserable in a bar too and I don’t drink.
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