How to develop a social life...

[Myre]

How to develop a social life when;

1. I don't like talking to people

2. I don't care for talking to people.

3. I have no idea how to talk to people.

4. I am legit socially anxious and awkward if that isn't already obvious, I find myself always attempting to escape all interractions.

5. I appear very cold and severely reserved. I am not one for humour and emotions cos I never feel comfortable enough.

6. I am overly suspicious and envious of others, I don't like to be any so I make myself scarce.

7. I feel ashamed and fearful, ashamed that I have sunk way below my past self. Afraid that I don't hold the capacity to manage my future.

8. That no one is ready to listen to me talk about my issues. That my problems are not worth the words and I am altogether not worth the attention.

I want to be able to tackle this issues come new year. To learn to love myself to even begin to put myself out there, know what I want and accomplish my desires.

Wishing everyone comfort of soul and mind. Hugs and kisses. Happy new year.❤️

[Myre]

Apathy is a major side effect of my depression so when I come across as flat and unaffected, people don't get me. Communicating is an ordeal, one I go out of my way to avoid. I am working on it but I find myself withdrawing a lot, apprehensive bi may have said something wrong or come across as strange. I am sure I can do it too, thanks for the reassurance, glad to have your help.☺️

[Myre]

Thanks. I love your username by the way

[Hidden]

Hey Myre, happy new year to you too. Hope you’re doing ok and I like how you made yourself a list of things to tackle. I know it can seem overwhelming, but you can do this.

Something that I found helpful in the past when I was learning to socialize was to interact with people in a goal oriented situation and try to have fun with it. For example, if you like singing, join a choir and get some experience working with a group toward a common goal. It can give you a sense of belonging and you can have fun interacting and learning together. Or volunteer at a local nonprofit, which is one of my goals for 2021. You will feel better about yourself and get some experience socializing with the other volunteers.

Best wishes for the new year! ❤️

[Myre in reply to Hidden]

Hi Phil, it's always a good day when I hear from you. I am teaching myself to say I am fine and and mean it. Hope 2021 favours us all with satisfaction, bliss, self acceptance and much more.Actually I do love to sing and dance; especially but I come from a conservative family in a conservative environment. Unfortunately, a lot is restricted. I am a teenager lobbying for my freedom among other things. That's a matter for another occasion.

A few weeks ago, I put my name down for a nonprofit organization and I am now looking towards joining a tailoring school.

Thanks Phil, I never thought of any of it as a way to grow my social circle. Now presented with the idea, I am given more reason to work towards my goals.

Have a memorable celebration tomorrow. ❤️

[Gentlespirit]

Oprah said that a true friend is comfortable with you even in silence. My father used to say that it doesn't mater what you have rather its what u do with what you have. Be yourself learn grow and you are worth it. Good reminder for myself too.

[Myre in reply to Gentlespirit]

Thank you. I will make sure to keep those in mind. Seeking out acceptance and companionship in these confusing years, we teens tend to set ourselves up for hurt and dissapointment without realizing. I am a quiet person, I am going to learn to love me for myself and all of my traits and find people who like me just for me. I wish you the same. Once again, wish you a grand, glorious, bountiful year.❤️

[Myre]

Lol, didn't think about that when picking the name but I happen to really like mermaids too. Mermaid movies are cool, it's one of my favourite fantasy genres actually.

[Myre]

I am rooting for you. Have a wonderful, fulfilling year.