Toxic people

[Strongest123]

Hello everyone on here. Hope everyone’s had a great Monday. I’ve posted on some of my recent posts that I had to retire due to my mental health a few years back. I do try to keep myself busy during the day by doing my weightlifting exercises early in the Am when I’m up. And I always have a small notebook to remind me of certain things I need to do….haircut, groceries, post office, etc. And one thing I’ve been doing is going to my daughters grandparents house for lunch, almost everyday. My daughters grandparents are really kind to me and her grandmother is always so kind and likes to cook my favorite dishes. Her husband is another story. He’s very short tempered, doesn’t let anyone talk and he’s one of those people that thinks he’s always right. I’ve had some issues with him in the past but lately my patience with him has been pushed beyond limits. I use to actually play chess with him a while back, but his son warned me about playing with him that he’s a sore loser and has zero patience. Today I think was the final straw, he totally insulted me using a slang word in Spanish and kept criticizing me for not eating all of my food. And of course my has anxiety levels were being triggered to the max. This guy I must say is some piece of work. Everywhere he goes he gets into problems, and arguments. He is not a bad person per say, but he’s one of those individuals that has no filter. He talks without thinking. I do really believe that I need to put myself 1st. I’ve been grieving the passing of my brother and I need peace and tranquillity more than anything in my life now. SAMSON

[PrettyImperfect]

Hello! First, I want to extend my sympathy for your brother's passing. Grief comes in waves and peace helps facility healing. I am so proud of you for acknowledging your feelings and considering your health. Peace and tranquility are priceless.

[Strongest123 in reply to PrettyImperfect]

Thank you so much. I surely appreciate the support

[Shnookie]

Hi 👋 Samson. It’s Shnookie. My condolences on the loss of your brother. Now is the time to take care of yourself.

It might be advisable to spend less time around your daughter-in-law’s Family now.

Unless someone from there can explain to the grandfather to hold off on his unfiltered

behavior. U can explain to his son how U R feeling now and that it’s not to insult them but rather U need some peace in your life

now. Have an easy Tuesday.

Hugs 🤗 S

💪- for the strength of Samson.

[Strongest123 in reply to Shnookie]

Thank you so much I surely appreciate the support

[Dolphin14]

I'm so sorry for the loss of your brother. This is a very difficult time.

You don't need this type of behavior around you. It's sad that he is this way but you have a choice. Any chance you can visit when he is not home?

You do need loving support at this time and his wife sounds like she gives you that. I would hate to see you lose that support.

Please take care of yourself.

🐬

[Strongest123 in reply to Dolphin14]

Thank you. Yes, I think staying away from him is best for my mental well-being

[fauxartist]

People with no filters can be that way for many reasons, but when it's just because they are ignorant about how it affects others... then you have to set your boundaries. Be clear you didn't appreciate the comment, and if you don't feel your in a positions to say so, then walk away, limit your space around him as much as possible, and if you have to stop going over for lunch to do so, then that may have to be a change you need to make for you.

[Strongest123 in reply to fauxartist]

Thank you. It’s sucks to be honest cause I do enjoy coming over for lunch. But he’s a very stubborn person. And if you don’t agree with his opinion he gets angry.

[fauxartist in reply to Strongest123]

Maybe he rules by fear to hide his real inadequacy's.

[Strongest123 in reply to fauxartist]

I truly think so