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Being afraid of other people seeing what you are doing at the moment?

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I guess it is a pretty common thing but, I feel discomfort whenever someone takes a peek at what I am doing, regardless of what it may be. Could be: watching a video, reading a book, cooking, learning about something, etc. No matter how productive, or unproductive the action is, I just simply dislike someone taking a look at it while I am doing it.

I theorise the fear can be a biproduct of my perfectionist tendencies, so showing anything that is not "good enough" causes me anxiety. It can also have to do with a belief that if someone sees me doing something, they will ask in the future about that something and if I have dropped it or left it unfinished by then, it may lead to either an uncomfortable moment, or prodding in into why I am not doing that anymore.

Anyone with the same experience or perhaps some advice to deal with that? That feeling is one of the things that causes me to get anxious over doing even "solo" activities.

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I can totally relate to your post. I'm exactly the same as you described yourself. I don't want anyone to look at me when I'm doing my work whether it be anything. I also believe that this behaviour is due to my tendency to be a perfectionist. I would say that this is the most relatable post I've read

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It is good to know that is, indeed, something common. Got any tips to mitigate that feeling?

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We can never be perfect, so accept your imperfections. Lower down the greed to be perfect. Think this like everyone is unique, so am I and i have my own way of doing a task. Be yourself, the world will adjust

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Interesting perspective... To reframe "imperfection" into a "particularity".

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ciaranjack

I get the same thing I always shut off whatever I’m doing whenever someone else enters a room and look up t see what they are doing before I resume my activity I don’t quite know what it is exactly

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boundaries are okay to have... and healthy.

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