What do people talk about all the time?

[SchizoidBartelby]

I really wonder what people talk about with their friends. I know some people from college but we never meet or talk outside college. Mainly because I never text or call. But they don't call me either. I only have one friend and we usually talk if one of us need something. We are friends because we learn from each other. But this started to bother me because I feel like I need more friends to just hang around, do nothing.

[onceinadream]

I know people love talking about themselves. If you're not a good talker you can be a good listener until your more comfortable. Ask about their interest, such as music, games, movies, etc., or anything you're interested in knowing about them. People usually have alot of stories to tell about their past, you learn about about people that way.

[SchizoidBartelby in reply to onceinadream]

That's usually what I do when I meet people. But after a while it comes to a point where I can't stand listening to them anymore. I feel so sleepy when listening to people which they can easily misinterpret

[onceinadream in reply to SchizoidBartelby]

What other activities do you do with them?

[SchizoidBartelby in reply to onceinadream]

When I meet my one true friend, we can talk about everything. We go camping, cycling, fighting whatever. But other people I see in college, sometimes I text them when I need to prepare for the exams. Other times we go to a cafe after lecture and talk about daily things. My classmates are 8 years younger then me so that's another problem

[hypercat54 in reply to SchizoidBartelby]

Don't forget to take your turn talking too. If they only want a listener then dump them! It's got to be give and take. x

[SchizoidBartelby in reply to hypercat54]

That's true. I take my turn to talk about, which they are kind enough to ask questions. But usually I tend to talk about depressing stuff

[lorianxiety in reply to SchizoidBartelby]

Is college depressing?dont answer if you don't feel like it.!

[SchizoidBartelby in reply to lorianxiety]

Life is depressing, college is just a part of it

[lorianxiety in reply to SchizoidBartelby]

Maybe that's how your feeling and then nothing /nobody feels right,its a strange world indeed and no 2 people are the same ,yet we all have mixed emotions about everything/nothing.

[lorianxiety in reply to onceinadream]

I would agree with that ,though lately my usual compassionate self -vanished its coming back again and hopefully it stays.

[lorianxiety]

Hi that's some College,no one to talk to ,but if you don't feel like talking then that's fine,how do you spend your spare time -not worrying like me ,what are you studying,hope you don't mind me asking takes my mind of myself!

[SchizoidBartelby in reply to lorianxiety]

I study American literature and I usually spend time alone. When I'm at home, I'm blogging and working freelance. When I have time, I go on bike trips and camping. I used to love reading but I can't keep myself focused and motivated so for the last 2 years I haven't been reading much.

[lorianxiety in reply to SchizoidBartelby]

that sounds interesting;not being American what type of literature is it,sounds heavy reading to me.

[pam4him]

First, are you able to be in groups where you can meet new people? Hopefully so. When in a group, think about why this group comes together, what they might have in common and what drew you to be there. Start there and let the conversation flow naturally. If you don't know much about a topic, ask questions. That shows interest in the other person and they are usually eager to provide answers. Try not to force relationships as they can tend to fall flat before they really get started. It may take a few tries, but you should be able to find a few friends to hang out with. Prayers for wisdom and guidance for you.

[SchizoidBartelby in reply to pam4him]

I get usually anxious in groups. Tomorrow there will be a meeting of a publisher and I want to go and meet some people to build a network which would help me in business. But I'm not sure if I can go and just be comfortable. Thank you for your advise.

[icebear_ramen]

yo i feel u!! like i try to befriends with people but unless we're talking about school stuff i seem to get stuck at somepoint of the conversation and be able to continue. it makes me so uncomfortbale cause i wanna talk but i cant! its a pain for me when i leavemy room and my roommate/only friend is sitting there and i have nothing to say expect : what u cooking? what u watching? hows ur class? anyways i noticed this is from a year ago. im curious did u find a solution?