Chemistry?

[Kainan]

I feel left out some times by a few peers in my program. There’s only 6 of us in my program and we’ve been together almost a year. I just don’t feel connected to a few of them and it seems like that affects my relationship with the group as a whole. Two of them won’t talk to me at all, but seem pretty talkative to the others in the group. I say hello or make small talk but they don’t seem interested. They will readily help each other or the other folks and will even stay with them after hours to finish up, but don’t care that I’m there as well. Though I’m used to doing things alone so I don’t necessarily need the help. The group walk together, sit together, talk about non school stuff. Which I still try to do but now I don't feel comfortable getting into their conversations either. I don’t know maybe it’s me and it’s too late now. I’m happy doing my own thing I just wish I could relate to my peers more and develop a connection more than just an acquaintance

[Hb2003]

Some classmates in my classes are like that too . I sometimes feel like i did something wrong so I would always ask if I did something wrong

[Kainan in reply to Hb2003]

That’s exactly what’s going on up there 😅 I would like to ask but that seems just silly

[Hb2003 in reply to Kainan]

Yep same I think that too

[Hidden]

We can’t force other people to like us. Some people will judge you just by how you look before you’ve even said a word to them. Other times when you’re first getting to know someone you might be trying to be friendly and they could have a bunch of nosy questions and then you reveal something that they have an issue with. Sometimes you can wrack your brain wondering what you said or did and just drive yourself insane that way. Just try to get along and be friendly and at the same time don’t get too overly concerned about it.

[Kainan in reply to Hidden]

Thanks makes sense. I’m just being myself. I never really connected with a couple of them since the start