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More than just fear. Mentally exhausted. Pregnant or not pregnant.

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I thought that all this situation of my last pregnancy ended when I miscarriaged in July. Those were hard weeks because I wanted to be wrong. I did not want to accept it until my doctor corroborated that I was not pregnant anymore and he did it.

After that I just wanted to grieve my baby and feel better after time. I had some other ultrasounds and a tomography between August and September because they found a cyst in my ovary. Also my period has not being normal since July.

Everything changed in October when I started to feel some movement in my belly. I thought it was some digestive problems because I have not eaten well and enough since I lost my baby. I have not feeling hungry and I still get nauseous. I lost weight for that reason.

After some days, those little pops in my belly started to feel more strong and often. Then those pops turned in to something like a little fish sensation. My stomach started to grow an my hips too. I though that probably it was my imagination. I went for another ultrasound and I told my symptoms to the doctor. He did another ultrasound and there were nothing. I was not pregnant. He told me that probably it was my desire of having my lost baby.

Well, probably true.

But now, I can't anymore. My back, my hips are killing me when I walk or when I am sit. I can't sit anymore. I need support in my back and my stomach is getting bigger. I can't close my pants anymore. I can't rest on my bed either. I need a lot of pillows to support my stomach and my legs. I did another pregnancy test but it is negative.

Now, I feel kicks and stronger movements. Especially when I walk a lot for my job. I need to bend and use the stairs often. After all that work, the movement in my belly are stronger.

I am waiting for another appointment. I couldn't do my job today. I barely could bend and walk enough because of my aches.

I am too scared of having a abdominal pregnancy. A pregnancy outside of my uterus. If I am really pregnant, right now I am 22 week. I will need a C-section. That means that my baby has to low chance for surviving. Also that means that I had an heterotopic pregnancy. It is a pregnancy with 2 embryos. One implanted in the uterus and the other outside. So I miscarriaged one in July but the other remained implanted outside in my abdomen.

Damned!!

I am a mental mess. The doctors made me feel like crazy.

I try to think, "Ok, probably I have a huge tapeworm in my belly." That make my friends laugh. But that is how I am gonna bother my doctors. I am gonna tell them I have a tapeworm so I will need more check ups in other areas of my abdomen, because if I said that I think I am pregnant, they will not believe me and they will not do more.

I don't know. I hope if I am really pregnant, please please, please, please pray for my baby, I do not want to lose him. Pray for me because it means that is high risk for me too. I have a 14 year old kid. I am the only parent for him. I can't go before time. 😔

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Sillysausage234

I think the clue here is you haven’t been eating well ….scans are ok take comfort from them expensive diagnostic tests trust them in what they say ….could be just spasms in your intestines trapped wind ….try some senna …..as a big fart might help

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UkyoCoanccy in reply toSillysausage234

🙃 I really hope it is just that.

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Sillysausage234 in reply toUkyoCoanccy

Trust me …I’ve had a few phantom pregnancies 😄

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Starrlight

Best to you. Be good to yourself.

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Arymretep

Take care of yourself 😘

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UkyoCoanccy

Thanks. Sometimes my mind goes away overthinking in all the possibilities and I feel so scared.

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