So sad

[Kam360]

Please help. I've just ventured out for a short walk with my husband. We stopped at a shop to get some provisions and I'm a panicking mess. Shaking, crying and wondering if I'm ever going to be the person I was. My husband doesn't know what to say to me. I'm 62, I haven't got time to waste being sad and anxious. I'm on antidepressants, but waiting for them to do their job is taking forever. Sorry to whine but I feel so sad.😘

[Murielle21]

Oh love you! I don’t know what to say but just to let you know that you are not alone suffering. I am 74 and am still in bed seemingly unable to get up. What for l ask myself. I am alone but you have your lovely husband. Try to talk to him about how you’re feeling. Maybe try playing a game together like chess, draughts or simple card games to get your mind off it. I probably would have difficulty doing it but l’m just trying to help. So many of us suffering Depression and Anxiety etc; know that you are not alone and l am sending you all my best wishes. I hope you’re feeling calmer now hun.🙏🏻

[Murielle21 in reply to Murielle21]

Deep Breaths!x

[Els92 in reply to Murielle21]

Oh no hope your ok, I know the feeling all to well of not wanting to get out of bed and face the day ahead. X

[Kam360 in reply to Murielle21]

Murielle, thank you, you are so sweet. It must be scary to be alone. Do you have anyone near by?❤️

[Weatherwoman in reply to Murielle21]

I am a tad older than you (77), and I thought that I was quite alone being this age & still suffering from moderate to severe anxiety --sometimes sad & depressed. I have had anxiety since I was born, really, probably inherited & grew up in an anxious household. I will say that I didn't receive any proper help till my late 50's for Panic & OCD. I would say that a lot of us who still suffer All these years, most likely, didn't get any help, or any proper help. I have made progress, though, as at some points in my life, I could not go out alone, and could not live alone for years; therefore, staying with my Mom for way too lone, and roommates. I am now, and have been in a wonderful relationship with my Sig. Other for 27 years, but, he is now unfortunately severely ill (heart attacks, Parkinson's), and I am helping him & am his primary caregiver. Of course, this has increased my anxiety, and this stress along with the Pandemic has me Anxious, Nervous, Scared, sad & depressed everyday. I try & cope by keeping myself busy (and, there is plenty to do in our home), small walks, connect with friends via phone, and texting, coloring in adult coloring books (a great destress tool), shopping on-line (maybe too much), etc. One of my greatest fears is something happening to my Sig. Other, and then I will feel All alone. Even though I have lived alone for many years (progress) before I moved in with my Sig. Other. I don't think I will be able to cope at all if something happens to him --one of my many fears! My "hat is off to you," living alone --I am hoping that you can connect with friends, relatives, and people on this site. Reading some of these post makes me feel that I am Not alone in the struggle with Anxiety & Depression --we are All rooting for each other!

[Els92]

God love you but please don't be so hard on yourself. The fact you've got up this morning, got dressed and left the house is a massive achievement when struggling with anxiety be proud of yourself and don't be so harsh on yourself. I know it's frustrating I'm also waiting for my medication to start working been the longest three weeks of my life I'm only 29 and I had to run out of a shop on Thursday without even purchasing what I wanted because total panic took over and I thought my legs were going to give way on me and collapse. I beat myself up for the rest of the day because id ran out the shop and not stood and fought the panic. My GP them phoned me the next day and told me to start giving myself credit for what I was still achieving rather than what I wasn't. I felt better knowing I'm still getting up every day cooking cleaning tidying washing dealing with three children going food shopping getting them to and from school and I won't let one set back in one shop convince me I'm not getting better, won't get better and can't manage going to a shop. Please give yourself a break your still pushing through and that's what matters xx

[Kam360 in reply to Els92]

Thank Els, love to you and your family ❤️

[Els92 in reply to Kam360]

Sending you love also. Remember Rome wasn't built in a day and unfortunately there's no quick fix to anxiety as much as I wish there really was. Why don't you keep a journal so you can actually see your progress rather than focusing on your set backs. I thought I was never getting better but i actually managed to go and visit my mam and stay for two hours which is the first time I've been to hers in almost two weeks because I took a panic attack in her house so convinced myself I had to stay away or i would constantly have panic attacks at her house. The mind is a very powerful thing xx

[Kam360 in reply to Els92]

You are very wise Els, I think I am slowly improving, but the set backs and anxiety say otherwise. I would just love not to have the anxiety....it has a lot to answer for. I'm supposed to be going to the coast for a couple of days... I'm dreading going. I have a few Valium but don't really like using them. It's the mornings I dread.xx

[Els92 in reply to Kam360]

Your actions this morning say you are definitely improving I hate walking because I constantly feel like am going to topple over and my legs are like jelly. I know the feeling of dreading going somewhere I'm glad I have my car cause I tell myself if I need to leave I can get in the car and drive back home. Pack some puzzle books, reading books, adult colouring books, download games on your phone or tablet. Once you reach the coast if you don't want to venture out of your accommodation then don't you've made progress even just leaving your house for a few days. I also have diazepam but I'm holding back from taking them until I'm really really panicky and having an attack. Try nibbling on just a half of diazepam that's what I do I don't take a full one xx

[Kam360 in reply to Els92]

Yes, I only use a half at a time....Just loading I pad with some games!❤️❤️

[Els92 in reply to Kam360]

Good, just remember if anxiety gets too much you can always return home if needed. Your making massive progress even just packing and going. Try and enjoy it best you can my inbox is open if you need somebody to talk too xx

[Kam360 in reply to Els92]

❤️❤️👍

[Arymretep]

Sorry to hear that, it’s so hard isn’t it,how long have you been on antidepressants for , they should start to work after a few weeks , take care 😘

[Kam360 in reply to Arymretep]

Hi hon, I've been on antidepressants for 30 odd years. They stopped working about 5 years ago...my doc refused to wean me off them to try another type so I just became worse! I've tried Venlefaxine, Cymbalta, Vortioxetine, Trazodone and I'm now on Sertraline 100mg, still waiting......xx

[SnoopyDog5 in reply to Kam360]

wow, that must be difficult. I guess we assume they are working better then not having any medications at all.. myself I struggle everyday ... keeping yourself busy can help I guess, or finding things that help you deal with life ... I don't know, as you say, It doesn't always get easier ..

[Arymretep]

Good luck👍

[Kam360 in reply to Arymretep]

Thank you so much ❤️