Just so sad

[Sad22]

I have just been so sad lately. My daughter who I adore left for college and doesn’t need me anymore. She has issues and is so mean to me lately. I am in a loveless relationship and just feel like I don’t matter. Work and the gym take my mind off my problems but then when I am home I feel so alone

[itcantrainallthetime]

You have support here. I understand how you feel with activities taking your mind off of things and then going home and things feel crappy again. I hate just sitting at home at just staring at a screen but my husband doesn’t like to go anywhere or do much. Therefore I am stuck at home all the time bored, sad, and I feel lifeless. I just sit at home in my pajamas all the time. I don’t know how to make it better but I have empathy for your situation.

[Sad22 in reply to itcantrainallthetime]

Thanks, I am with you!

[Rick1on1]

I know it is difficult but try to start seeing the dependency your daughter had on you as a way for you to reclaim freedom and independence for yourself. It is time to think about yourself in a more selfish way. What are your needs, goals and desires?

If you need to feel wanted there are many charitable organizations that could use your assistance. It will give you purpose, allow you to meet new people; thus helping with the loneliness.

As for being in a loveless relationship - compare the pro's and con's and make a decision. Else, you could rot your very essence and leave you empty.

[Sad22 in reply to Rick1on1]

Thanks, I appreciate your support and advice

[Hidden]

Oh how I feel for you....I understand, when my oldest daughter left for college 10 years ago I was devastated...she may just want to be spreading her wings and the anger more than likely is not meant for you but as mothers and us being the closest to them, they can take their anger out on us yet not really meaning to....

You can send her cards and goodie packages now, that will be fun....

Hang in there and I'm here for you and wish you nothing but the best.

Here's some sparkles for your day.

Dump trucks of groovy love, peace, light, joy and hugs!

[Sad22 in reply to Hidden]

Thanks! I know some parents can’t wait for their kids to go but for 18 years it was her and I and I dedicated my life to her. It is hard now

[Hidden in reply to Sad22]

I understand what you're saying...I have 4 kids, 40-28. I wanted them all to stay little forever, I love babies and when each one left it felt like a part of me left. With time it will become easier for you to deal with . Hang in there. Stay strong and focus on the positives, some kids won't do college and you have had a great relationship with her..here's some sparkles for your day..

Dump trucks of groovy love, peace, light, joy and hugs!

[MRawPR]

Hello Sd22. I have 4 children. All adults, married with children of their own. I am a grandma of 9 beautiful kids. We’ve always been a very close and loving family. Until my second daughter got upset with me because I decided not to babysit her two kids while she and her husband went to Europe three weeks. I have anxiety syndrome. Panic attacks. Vertigo and one of my knees has bad arthritis. I didn’t think I could stay three weeks looking after them especially the boy who is autistic. She got so mad that didn’t speak to me for a whole year and has poisoned the mind of her sister as well. Ever since our family’s close relationship has been broken. As has my heart as well. It’s a pain greater than anything else and needless to say I get more anxiety every single day. All I can tell you is to always try to keep in touch with your daughter. Text her and call her even if she doesn’t respond. Even if she asks you to stop. That’s what I did and finally we got all together for New Years. It was a happy moment but we will never be the same as we were. She is selfish and heartless. But I love her and I will always be her mother.

Always tell your daughter that you love her no matter what. LOVE CONQUERS ALL❤️

[pink318]

Hello,

When my only child left for college, I felt empty, sad and has no purpose. My house was quiet and I miss my son so much. I thank God that I have a very supportive husband who’s there to comfort me. Prayers, inspirational messages, life group are my support so I can remain strong each day. My church has full of activities and it helps me to stay busy.

I’m sorry that you are going through this, I hope you can do things that you will enjoy.

I pray that all will be well with you and your daughter. You are not alone, we are here for you.