From a few days I'm going through a problem that has turned my world upside down. I've been through a heartbreak and feeling all alone in this pandemic sitting at home behind a computer screen prepping for exams and jobs.
This is a very crucial time in my life and I'm just not able to do anything. I can't focus on my health or my mental health or my career. I'm just not motivated enough to do anything and it is really needed right now.
Life had been very cruel lately with putting me into depressed state anytime I think of the person I liked, who didn't let me feel alone and saved me from a serious case of loneliness even without knowing it. Without her I'm just empty and hurting. There isn't much scope of connecting with my friends as they are far away and busy in their lives right now.
Also there is the pressure of doing things that are needed right now. But I'm unable to start doing any things that are good for me i. e. for my physical and mental health.
Just needed to say it. Perhaps if anyone can recommend a book or some technique that can help me in a time like this will be much appreciated.
Thankyou for taking the time to read my post.
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Hi Just wanted to let you know you are not alone with how you are feeling ,I can’t offer you much more just now as I’m currently adjusting to effects of a change in medication Morning are the worse time of the day , mood so low ,nausea, trembling and despair The sad part is , like you , one person can instantly lift how I am feeling despite the chemical imbalances/ adjustements! the sad part is they are hardly in contact now
What might work for you is take a few days "holiday". You dont have to go anywhere but make a daily list of activities that will improve your physical and mental being. Things like going for a walk, sitting outside for 10 minutes, eating a fruit, prepping healthy meals etc.
The idea is that as you tick of these items, you can start including activities that will propel your life forward. Once you create the habit of listing, doing and then ticking off items, the will to do the important and urgent things will become easier. You however need to give yourself some space to do this.
Hey! I get what you are trying to say and I know this solution will help me. I've been trying to do stuff like this that is good for me but I'm feeling so demotivated that I don't continue it. I guess the pressure on me at this point of time in life is also a lot so I'm not able to focus.
Whenever I try to do something, I realise that I have a lot to do and that pressure and worry is making me do things for self-gratification. I definitely need to get out of this loop and I am trying to do that.
Oh my god. Currently I’m in the same situation as you.
Recently I found out the guy I like does not care for me, at all. I was heartbroken. I waited for his msg everyday but I know the message will never come. And it affected my self esteem as well. Wondering why he doesn’t like or care for me at all.
It is so tough, I understand. I went to work feeling unmotivated everyday. The world is dark for me now, I fear of being alone and think of him.
But it is going to get better. Start to move on slowly like not seeing her. Not seeing him helps a bit for me. And start to do some stuff that makes you happy. If watching a movie or playing games makes you distract for a while, do it. But of course, you can’t avoid feeling sad, we need to get through the grief of losing some one in our life in order for us to feel better. Tell yourself that you gonna get through this, and this is a normal process to feel sad to get over her. I tell myself this everytime I feel so down.
My heart is with you. It will and definitely get better in time. Don’t give up.
Hey Greygal! I'm sorry that you are going through a similar situation. It really sucks the life out of you.I am trying not to see her but the thing is she's in my class and seeing her interact in the group or with me for something just breaks me and makes it difficult to forget her.
This unrequited love really messes you up as you don't have the right to get upset with the other person and still lose something so dear to you.
I don't know if you did this at the start but I've learned that when you want to go into something, in this case a relationship, define it. Make your views known and ask for a date. If the person says no then you know there and then not to waste your efforts and go too deep. In my case, because of the pandemic i went 1 year caring for the person but couldn't announce my feelings because we hadn't met yet. And going so deep without any security or a commitment really messes you up. Especially more if you are suffering with mental health issues. And forgive me for babbling here
Thankyou for your response and hope you find get better soon!
Well I am ancient believe me ,met someone ( I’m a widow) then Pandemic kept us apart for most of a year , such a strain , now they hardly in contact and it hurts as much as it did when I was in my 20’s ,take some comfort that you have your whole life ahead of you ( I’m retired )
That is there. I have a life ahead of me but that doesn't make it easier. Just finding it difficult to get by through the next hour without any motivation.
No it does not make it any easier and I didn’t mean it to sound like that, yes hour by hour , sometimes less ,it is all so exhausting , thinking of you
I am sorry that you are having such a hard time. Just reaching out on this post means that you are looking for help. As a Christian I will often say to others to pray through things. If they can't pray then I will pray for them. I hope that you know that your struggle is heartfelt and you are deeply cared for. Father, in Jesus name. You who created the universe knows that oldtimer159 is struggling. I pray that oldtimer159 would since your presence in a real way. God, your word says that you are near the brokenhearted. Psalm 34:18. So be with oldtimer159 today in Jesus name. Amen.
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