A vent for a minute

[Heyyouthere33]

Is it really that bad to ditch my family for some peace of mind on my and my twin sisters birthday.

The original plan was to come home from my birthday camping trip to dinner as home. But my parents got too tired to come a whole bunch of food so they wanted to eat out. I understand that and I would much rather stay home and order something home. I was just coming back from a trip and im tired and I get really anxious on trip so I need that time. But then I find out one of my sisters booked a table of a restaurant I dont like ( super crowded and the food its my favorite.) I told mu twin I dont want go to this but she was like " my parents want to spend time with us its our birthday, and I told her that I don't feel up for it. It's a long day I'm tired. And that restaurant is really crowded. I have anxiety and all that is trigger especially cuz I'm tired. . Welll they kept telling me to go and I do really appreciate the whole gesture, I dont want to go..

Anyway. Im ended up going cuz Idont want disappointed my family. But its my birthday too and I was ok with staying home. I'm tired and cranky and in an out of anxiety. Im just .... up to here.

[VDC1]

Sometimes we all feel antisocial and don’t want to hangout with family for whatever reason. I’ve always been antisocial and I would avoid family and even skip Christmas and stuff like that. Now that I’m older I regret it. In the grand scheme of things you’re lucky you have a family, a twin, your parents are still alive. Sometimes you will want to avoid them, but appreciate these times cause life is short and family is so important.

[TangledUpIn]

I totally get where you're coming from. Crowded, noisy restaurants are not ideal for anxiety. Your family sounds like my family - it's all about what they like and are comfortable with 🙄

[Daesin]

Ok, just because you're twins dosen't mean you're the same. It sounds like you're old enough for your parents to know that you girls aren't dressing alike or having your hair done exactly the same anymore. You are a grown woman that wanted to stay home and have an informal celebration. I find it hard to understand why parents and sister, no scratch the sister part, why the parents wouldn't have been willing to celebrate in a way in which you were more comfortable.

EXCEPT you didn't speak up for yourself! Take a bit of advice from an old lady.......we teach others how to treat us. By allowing your twin to push you into a situation you did not want to go into your parents now think this is how you want to celebrate.

Best of luck and blessings to all.

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The other week we were going to get the train back home from Swansea and there was a massive crowd coming towards us from the other direction and even though it was outside I felt uneasy.

I think covid will cause a lot more cases of agoraphobia myself as lots of people will suddenly become terrified of crowded indoor spaces rather than open outdoor ones like the park.